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He hid his phone?? Also liked girls pics. New(ish) relationship

18 replies

complicated789 · 12/05/2025 21:13

Been together since January. Recently caught him liking some birds photos he met on holiday. When confronted he unliked and unfollowed and blamed his friend….. anyway I let that one go in the end but last night I was at his and he was messaging someone albeit he wasn’t exactly hiding it from me but I just didn’t want to look. But a bit later he left the room (with his phone which is not unusual for him) then when he came back he sat next to me, took his phone out his pocket, put it on the FLOOR (as opposed to the coffee table or sofa) then sat me in his lap but before he put me on his lap he kicked his phone under the sofa. Maybe about 15 mins later he started patting cushions on the sofa saying “oh where’s my phone gone??” Then a few secs later he said “oh it’s okay I’ve just remembered where it is.” But he didn’t get his phone until we left the room a little while later. I do have a history of being a little suspicious with him due to the instagram thing and another occasion (where I got it all wrong). But I mean kicking it under the sofa???? Before anyone suggests going through his phone I just don’t think I could bring myself to do it.

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WildCats24 · 12/05/2025 21:39

You’ve been with him for a couple of months. Time to throw this one back.

surlycurly · 12/05/2025 21:41

I’d be out. If I can’t trust someone then they’re not for me.

yeesh · 12/05/2025 22:13

all of this has Hastings January. Don’t waste anymore time with someone you can’t trust. He’s a creep

complicated789 · 12/05/2025 22:21

I mean am I gaslighting myself if I was to say maybe he put it on the floor so he didn’t spill tea on it (he had a teapot on the table and 3 mugs) and maybe he kicked the phone away so I didn’t stand on it when he moved me….

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Poonu · 12/05/2025 22:23

"birds" ? Lol

complicated789 · 12/05/2025 22:25

Poonu · 12/05/2025 22:23

"birds" ? Lol

oh excuse me I mean a females

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healthybychristmas · 12/05/2025 23:01

He isn't even very good at hiding what he's up to. Time for him to go.

Screamingabdabz · 12/05/2025 23:04

Why would you even bother trying to find a glimmer of hope op? He’s a lech. Don’t lower yourself.

blythet · 12/05/2025 23:07

I think this sounds like my ex!! 😂 you’re not from Glasgow are you? (‘Birds’ is quite common here and I know he started seeing someone new around then!)

complicated789 · 12/05/2025 23:19

blythet · 12/05/2025 23:07

I think this sounds like my ex!! 😂 you’re not from Glasgow are you? (‘Birds’ is quite common here and I know he started seeing someone new around then!)

Not me lol

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smallsilvercloud · 12/05/2025 23:21

There’s no obligation that you must stay with him? He’s already been a bit shady meeting and following a woman he met on holiday so naturally everything he does will cause you to doubt him, he’s failed relationship probation, I don’t think it’s worth the time and energy once the trust is gone.

complicated789 · 12/05/2025 23:57

I feel like ending it could be an overreaction. He’s perfect in every other way. Maybe a discussion on boundaries?

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Ichangemyname · 13/05/2025 00:00

complicated789 · 12/05/2025 23:57

I feel like ending it could be an overreaction. He’s perfect in every other way. Maybe a discussion on boundaries?

You shouldn't have to teach him.

complicated789 · 13/05/2025 00:06

Ichangemyname · 13/05/2025 00:00

You shouldn't have to teach him.

No. But I have really fallen for him. I knew him a long time before the relationship became exclusive. I guess I don’t want to end things if it’s over something daft that could be nipped in the bud.

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category12 · 13/05/2025 00:06

complicated789 · 12/05/2025 23:57

I feel like ending it could be an overreaction. He’s perfect in every other way. Maybe a discussion on boundaries?

Perfect apart from having a wandering eye ? 🙄

You can't train someone to be faithful.

Ichangemyname · 13/05/2025 00:30

complicated789 · 13/05/2025 00:06

No. But I have really fallen for him. I knew him a long time before the relationship became exclusive. I guess I don’t want to end things if it’s over something daft that could be nipped in the bud.

Problem is, after seeing this played out so often online, the suspicious acting with the phone, I wouldn't be able to trust him. There are too many men out these days, with the sweet shop mentality of their pick of women.

Don't do the pick me dance. Find out what he's up to, whatever you have to do.

MsDogLady · 13/05/2025 00:51

Recently caught him liking some bird photos he met on holiday. When confronted he unliked and unfollowed and blamed his friend…..

Blamed his friend for his own shady behavior? Hiding his phone under the sofa?

@complicated789, this is an immature guy who is thirsty for the attention of other women.

Stay with him at your own peril.

Bumblebeestiltskin · 13/05/2025 07:10

complicated789 · 12/05/2025 22:25

oh excuse me I mean a females

You mean a woman. Are you both about 16?

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