First same-sex date

[Youwerenotthefirstmylove]

I'm not entirely new to this, but it has been nearly 20 years since I've dated a woman. At 18 I was in a year long relationship with an older woman but because I was friends first with her, I don't have the dating phase experience from then to go on.
I've got a date coming up this Saturday, I think I've seemed more keen to meet than her, she's a bit nervous, I am slightly nervous but I am more wondering if and how it will be different going on dates with a woman. Will it feel just like meeting a friend for a walk or food? How will I know if she's flirting or being friendly? How can I ensure she knows I'm flirting and not just being friendly but without saying something I'll cringe about later? I'm not hugely shy but I definitely overthink.

Just go with the flow you’ll be fine x

Yeah I will do, also wondering if it feels more like I'd prefer to be friends is that OK to say at the end of the date or just pop it in a message x

In my experience the tendency is for both women to wait for the other to say if they interested in taking it further because neither is sure if the other is flirty or just friendly!! This often leads to to protracted friend zone phase until one of you gets tipsy/ brave enough to make a move 😆 even seemingly blatant clues are sometimes misread as 'friendly'!!

If you fancy her don't be afraid to say so directly. There is nothing hotter than a confident woman who is prepared to make the first move! Similarly, if you are sure you don't fancy her/ only want to be friends then tell her asap so she isn't wondering if you're shy rather than simply not interested!!

Thankyou Bunny x

Hope it goes well!!!

OP, as you have arranged to go on a date, there will be some expectation there and l think you will be able to read the signals.

I’m a 40 something bi female (l discovered my bi side in my 30s when working away from home) and more recently got chatting to someone on another work trip. To cut a long story short we went out for an evening. She put her hand on my shoulder when she got up to go for a wee and l totally misread the signals. It was all very awkward; it is the only time l have got it totally wrong

But as this is a “proper date”, l assume arranged on line(?) her expectations and your expectations will be similar. See how it goes, you really can’t overthink these things in advance. 🌈

Just a quick update while I'm on lunch, the date Saturday ended up being Sunday which I wasn't happy about initially as I'm a bit funny with last minute changes.
We met and did a bit of a trek around local woodlands, she came to my town and I'm not the best tour guide! Tired her out anyway and the bathroom facilities and cafe were shut so had to trek back down to a pub, had a drink and game of pool. Quite a laid back date not what I imagined but really enjoyed it. I'd missed/bottled a few opportunities to go in for a kiss but did go in for a little goodbye one and it turned into my first snog in about 6 years 🤣. Looking forward to meeting again xx

Great news, OP! 😁 A bit of awkwardness on a first date is to be expected and it certainly ended well! ❤️