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He doesn’t want this life anymore but doesn’t leave

30 replies

Entti · 12/05/2025 06:43

Me and DP have been together 6 years, we have a 3 year old and a newborn together and he has a teen daughter with ex gf.
Things between us were a bit hit and miss with our first DC, DP was on and off with me. I tried moving on countless times, but he love bombed me back to be with him. Things went swimmingly for a while, family and sex life was amazing, I fell pregnant and he just turned. All throughout the pregnancy he distanced himself and was back to his old tricks of being on and off. I found it so hard to just him go and I still stuck around to try to be a family. Since baby has been here, he’s hung around and helped out, but some days he’ll wake up in a foul mood and say he doesn’t want this life anymore. This morning he woke up and has done the same thing , and I asked why? He said because I have to wake up next to you and look at you.
I’ve had enough and I’m so upset over it all. Any advice?

OP posts:
Octoberdreaming · 12/05/2025 21:56

He is a real nasty piece of work OP. I highly suspect he is another narcissistic POS.
How dare he speak to the mother of his children - his newborn child - in such a way. What he is doing is emotional abuse.

You can do this without that deadbeat OP - You deserve so much more than to be treated like that.

Take care of yourself Mama x

Suecee · 07/07/2025 19:01

A Yeti deserves a better partner than him!

Ditch the rat. Change the locks. Get the CSA started and change your mobile number.

Learn to hate him. He's worth that, and only that!

He wants you when he thinks you will move on, but when he has you he blames you for the fact that he's a waster. He mirrors his flaws onto you, but hes as much of a loser in that too, because he cant stop seeing your higher attributes thru his myopia.

Get rid. Take strength in the love of your children. Get your family/friends arojnd you and forgive yourself for being fooled by his lies.

Months ago I decided 2 things :

  1. 'life is too short to suffer even slightly stale bread'. I used to use it from crust to crust.
    Blow that! It's for the birds!

  2. with my husband..... I stopped rewarding bad behaviour.
    He upsets me, he loses something...
    a) he doesn't get the good stuff I had planned...
    b) Can't find something that he cherishes...
    (In the bin pal)

Its your life. Live it to the full.

Suecee · 07/07/2025 19:18

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Suecee · 08/07/2025 01:54

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