Where do I stand? Is he being friendly?

[TenaciousTina]

My ex partner with whom I have a DD with is taking my DD abroad on their first holiday together this summer, he booked it a few months ago.
For background, we separated about 6 months ago and things have been up and done but recently I feel he has been trying to be a bit flirty with me again.
Anyway, yesterday we were talking about holidays and I told him I wouldn’t be going away this year. He then said well why don’t I join them on their holiday. I replied no straight away as I thought it was a bizarre thing to say when we are not together anymore. He then sent me a message saying I am hard to please which I thought was even stranger! I am very confused by this and I don’t know where I stand with him, is he trying to rekindle or just being friendly. Any advice please?
For info, we went almost no contact for a few months before Christmas as we were arguing a lot but I had my suspicions that he might have met someone else when we separated (no proof) I also have 2 DS from a previous relationship so things were complicated. I think communication has always been a huge issue.

Remember why you broke up. Don't give too much headspace as to whether he's being friendly or flirty or just a bit of a dick - he is what he is, it didn't work, just keep things simple and functional regarding your daughter and ignore the rest.

Just keep your boundaries in place, don’t muddy the waters, he’s an ex for a reason or ten

"Not hard to please, James, but we are no longer together so it's better to just keep things on a friendly basis and not blur the lines. You and dd will have fun together'.

He met someone else, it didn't work out and now he's fancying his chances with you as what he sees is a safe bet and someone to share the burden on the holiday.

It's not that you're hard to please, it's that being with him didn't please you and you're not getting roped back in.

I agree with GoldDuster , whether he was seeing someone or not, something in his life/thoughts have changed. The cynic in me thinks and I don't not know how old your daughter is, but my ex realised when he had our DS overnight on a weekend I think it hit home oh this is hard work being responsible and entertained for 24 hours, he would buy our son any toy, video etc rather than any quality time with him. Perhaps your ex thinks you coming on holiday he can relax a bit and you take some parenting duties. Also, after 6 months he to me clearly thinks he can push the boundaries and see if you go. It is about respect too, and to say you are difficult to please is gaslighting, and a red flag.

Unbelievably, myex was so not wanting to be on his own with my son when he was 7 and going on holiday to Spain he paid a person who was a barmaid in his local to babysit my son in the evening. He paid for her flight and hotel and £500. She must have thought she hit the jackpot ! I wanted to meet her as I didn't know her from Adam and checked she was who she said she was , and checked she didn't have a criminal record, or involved with children's social services for neglect or on on s.x register.