This is about my dd’s relationship **TW - suicidal ideation **

[Maximusdecimus]

I have posted about my daughter before, her serious mental health issues, suicidal ideation at one point I had almost accepted the fact that she was never going to be with me for long. Things started looking up for her. However, she lost her job recently so is really depressed from that, but I have a horrible feeling around her boyfriend. He is lovely and they seemed super happy but I get the impression since she lost the job and has been down he has got cold feet and is backing off.

I never wanted her to put her whole being into a person but she has done this with him. I can kind of sense it coming, and I’m dreading it because I don’t know how the hell she is going to handle yet another rejection. She says they are fine, but I think I’m picking up on things that she doesn’t see. She has autism and add. I don’t know what to do. I can’t get involved. But I’m also so over protective of her.

I know it’s not my role to get involved with their relationship. I don’t want too. She is so vulnerable and I am scared for her mental health all the time. I live in a state of constant panic that something will happen to tip her over the edge. I just need some advice really.

Does she have professional help?
Are you not wanting them to break up or have expectations on him to stay in the relationship to keep her safe?
Does she live with him/you?
Is someone there for you? If she doesn't feel able to contact the Samaritans would you for you? Am hopeful they could offer support/signposting?

She doesn’t receive any help. Was passed on to adult mental health who didn’t deem her unwell enough despite her almost spending a year in bed. She now has a flat and was ok up until the point she lost her job.

its not that I don’t want them to break up, if they aren’t right, they aren’t right. But I know what the fall out will be, my nerves are shredded as it is. I can’t keep her safe so I don’t expect him too. I just fear the fall out so much.