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Abusive ex

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SunnyDaysT · 11/05/2025 21:41

Ex husband and I coparent. I use the term coparent loosely as he has our three DC EOW and that is it about it. We are in the process of divorcing - he left me for an OW but I had to file for the divorce. We have very little contact except for child related queries as oldest is just six. Ex was very abusive especially towards the later stages of our marriage. I am in therapy and slowly regaining some of my confidence back but it is a long journey. He has very little access to me anymore. At pick up, children will leave from front door and it is very brisk. But he seems to want to continue to at least emotionally abuse me - for example, he will block me for no apparent reason and say when I text regarding a party on his weekend, I will be blocked. This will be for no reason. I maybe send him three messages a month at the most. Also he frequently walks past my house, just last week I walked out my front door and caught a glimpse as he jumped over a fence near my garden which leads to a main road. No idea whatsoever why he was there. It is exhausting and I wish I wasn’t in this position.

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pikkumyy77 · 11/05/2025 21:44

Passive aggressive behavior like blocking you or stalking you should be treated cheerfully and like a joke. Its its own punushment, really. If you see him again outside your hiuse shout “yoo hoo!” And wave. Burst out laughing and shout “you must really miss me, the way you are hanging around.”

SunnyDaysT · 11/05/2025 21:48

Approach cheerfully is not something I’ve considered as I’m so worn down but it’s worth a try!

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