Looking for advice or sense on whether I have unrealistic expectations of my partner or not. I have had a few minor ailments over the last few years, literally none of them id view as a big deal at all. I get mouth ulcers sometimes ( maybe once a month) which can be painful and mean I ask my partner to kiss me carefully, I had a small rash on my leg a few years ago which end ended up being easy to sort once I went to the doctor I had been hoping it would go away on its own as I am not really someone who likes bothering the doctor if I can help it. I then got a stye on my eye this week which is a bit sore and I suppose doesn’t look too attractive. All I needed for this was for my partner not to knock my eye area by accident when hugging.
He has essentially blamed me for all of these issues and said I don’t look after myself and he’s tired of dealing with them. I asked what he was talking about as it’s me who has to deal with them and any associated pain and it would be normal for someone to have sympathy rather than annoyance at something like this. I know when I’m told about a friend having a painful ailment I would simply be sympathetic to it. He then said that what about sympathy for him having to deal with me and getting annoyed saying ‘ there’s always something with you!’ And when I said he was being off with me suggested that I try and be more hygenic and to try having a month with no issues. I have been with him for 4 years and this is the first time I can recall having a stye. Would you be annoyed at this too if it was your partner or is he just lacking in kindness and empathy? I questioned how he would treat him if I developed a serious health issue and he said those wouldn’t be self inflicted so it’s different. Thanks for any thoughts.