How can I improve my libido?

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It's verrrrry low at the mo

have sex

honestly

Poor you. This makes you feel very guilty sometimes because you don't fully feel like the dutiful little wife.
Have you recently had a baby? Do you have several small DC's running around day and night? Are you likely to be depresed?

As lw says its obviously important to see if you can find answers but I totally agree with Cap. I don't always feel like sex but I sort of make myself a deal and think "if i don't enjoy it i'l stop" but every time, once we get going I end up enjoying it. For me its the idea of it that doesn't do much. Hope this helps x

A friend once told me that she never feels like having sex, but she always has a good time when she does. At various points in my life I have felt like that too, and what worked was just going for it, as Cappucino and Trebuchet have said.

Of course, now I have stopped breast-feeding, DH has to fend me off with the newspaper.

Also agree. I used to have to make myself approach my xh because I never felt like it. Buy some toys to make sure you benefit from the whole excercise too (IYKWIM). So long as you enjoy it when you get going you feel better about yourself, and it will work for the short term.

However, long term, who wants to be forcing themselves to have sex, instead of really wanting it? My lack of libido was post-natal, but also mixed up with the fact that I didn't much like or respect my husband because he was horrible to me. So you have to look at it from a broad view too. Low libido as a symptom of something else will not get better on its own.

Not saying it definitely IS a symptom of something else, just said it incase it was. Only you will know ((()))