I don’t really know where to start. 2 weeks ago DP of 18 years ended our relationship. We are both 50 no DCs. Says he has been unhappy for months, isn’t in love with me and it isn’t working anymore, has got cold feet, relationship feels uncomfortable. Didn’t tell me sooner as knows how devastated I would be, which I am. I love him and I am heartbroken. I have begged but he doesn’t want to work things out or give us a chance. I think the term is he ‘checked out’ months ago. He swears blind there isn’t another woman.
Think I have had my head buried in the sand as we never really talked about our relationship. In the past 6 months we have had more disagreements over small things - he can get angry quickly or passive-aggressive and sometimes shouts and swears. Over the years he has also called me hurtful names, lunatic, moron, wanker, fucking idiot and never apologises, I then get told I am being a drama queen and being too emotional when I cry, and this is one of the reasons he has ended it. Also last year he began to criticise me more, e.g. I talk too loudly, blow my nose too much (I get hayfever!). I couldn’t understand why he was picking on me and got offended which then lead to more hostility.
He is not a horrible person and has been very kind generous and supportive over the years, which is why I am finding it so hard to accept this.
We are in the process of selling the house but still living together is unbearable as nothing has really changed but it has if you know what I mean.
I just don’t know how I am going to get through this, especially when he actually leaves. We have lived together for 16 years.