Guys - is this our thread? If so, I really would value support. I've changed names since on the last one a while back.
My situation is complex. Years of therapy - no doubt at all, mother and brother are both nuts. We feel through years of therapy ( counsellor and I) that both are possibly sociopathic level. ( 🤦😭).
I'm very severely unwell. Incredibly vulnerable. Mother lives quite close and I have some value in occasional drop ins to mine, chats,cuppa and she helps me with odd things. I work very incredibly hard on maintain boundaries. I'm virtually bedridden so it's fucking hard ( I need to swear and get this out).
My brother, I went no contact over a year ago. I will yellow rock if there's a family event. We had one 6 months ago and I just play the yellow rock game. He has to go as was incredibly determined in his emotional abuse and cruelty. Both he and mum are alcoholics.
Mother is now, after a very long period of no mention of him, which I really valued mentally,is at every opportunity showing me photos of his amazing achievements,things he bought, did to the home, telling me relentlessly, non stop about this. Knowing that I am purposely not contacting him and why.
It's impacting my wellbeing because I firstly think - you absolute cunt. I know what you're doing. Your aim, I don't know, but you're being a witch. Secondly, it reinvites someone who was and is highly abusive back into my space.
Can you advise on how to communicate the ideal boundary that says stop, no more. I have to show no emotion or upset obviously. Just be firm without seeming jealous or riled.
I can't just NC the mother. Thanks guys.