DH & I happily married for 10 years.
We got together about 4 years before getting married.
When I was first going out with DH, but before it got serious, I went out a few times with a bloke from work, and we spent a night together.
It wasn't particularly great. He moved away for work soon after. Nothing else happened. Although DH vaguely knows the bloke (also from work) he obviously didn't know there had ever been anything between us.
I realised I wanted to be with DH, and we've been happily married since.
HOWEVER we've now been invited to an old friend's party of about 20 people, and this bloke will be one of them. I can't decide whether we should go, or if I should try to get out of it (which won't be easy),
I'm pretty sure he's married or in a relationship now too, and I can't imagine why/ how he would say anything, but if he did, I know it would upset DH.
I can't quite imagine what it will be like when we see each other again - might feel a bit strange trying to 'act normally'.
What do you think?