Lost interest

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Hi please can you help. Im 60 and met a 62 year old on a dating app. Ive never been married and no kids , she is divorced and 3 grown up kids. We live an hour apart. We had 6 dates in total , 5th date consumated things all good. After 6th date she had grandchild born. Lost interest and said no time for me now. Im sad and stressed and dont know what to do. Ive just given her space as she says im a low priority and she cant see things changing. Ive tried to be supportive. Thanks

There’s nothing you can do. She’s told you she’s not interested so you need to leave her be.

I think she's been clear so the best thing is to move on, get back on the apps and date some other people. If you want to keep dating, that is. If not, then busy yourself with other things, but let this one go as it's not happening and won't make you feel good pining after her when you weren't compatible after all. It might've been the distance as well as the grandchild, and the timing of the sex and the loss of interest can't help but feel like a factor - perhaps it wasn't as all good as you felt (not to say there's anything wrong with you for that, it's just hard to find people we really spark with sometimes). But whatever it was, there's no need to keep being supportive or in fact to keep in touch. Wish her well, block if that helps and see who else is out there.

I’m sorry this happened but I don’t think you should hang around and wait. She has said you’re not a priority and she’s too busy now so I would say that’s the end of the dating.

Cant the dating continue when she has more time?

If she was keen, she’d make time. Clearly, she’s not, so it’s time to move on.

She’s tried to let you down gently - you need to accept it

She won't find that kind of thick-skinned persistence appealing. Better to forget her and find someone who is interested and keen enough to prioritise you. There's nothing to be gained from being endlessly available to a woman who's told you she's not interested. It was only six dates. At 60, you should be able to chalk it up to experience and move on.

You never know, she might want to date again when she has time but she’s made it clear just now that she’s not interested.
Don’t be persistent, wish her well and move on, don’t wait for her.

sorry OP I think the grandchild is just an excuse to break it off with you. I mean if she wanted to she could easily spend time with you both (assuming she is retired).

In the nicest possible way I'm afraid you've been 'dumped'. It hurts I know especially when you saw lots of potential and had started falling for her.

Best thing to do is get back on the dating sites, join some meet up groups. Ceroc is a good one for men to join as it's easy to learn and new men are always welcome to even up the numbers.

I wish you well. I'm 52 myself and after 11 years away from dating/relationships I am finally starting to think of dipping my toe back in the water but it is terrifying.

Not retired she works full time and we are 2 hours apart