Happy Mother's day to everyone!
I have a problem. I have been a mom for 22 years of 2 wonderful boys. First off my oldest is on the spectrum and that has been a struggle for a good 20 years as I have dealt with all of school and work issues. Even going to speak with our Govenor and the news. My other son was attacked at high school and I was able to get him to go to the college and he graduated with an AA degree before high school....lots of yelling and crying over this but it is done. I also have epilepsy and after 23 years of being clear they came back...yeah me but whatever life goes on. So not to say my life is ok is an understatement. Now for Mothers day I would go see my mom by myself when I had a chance that day or my brother would ask me to come to breakfast with both of them the day before....I don't live far from my parents and we talk a lot so it isnt like I don't see her. MIL is about 3 miles away and my husband tries to call everyday or go over to check on her. My BIL well he drinks so don't have to say much there. Anyways I had to go in to the doctors office to get hooked up to a machine for 2 days...fun stuff. Well he told his mom but she tends to mix things up and tells people. I figured it out when we ran into his aunt at the same building and she was like why are you here and then she said that is right and pointed to her head. I said nothing and went inside. Now every single mothers day we have brunch with my MIL and I have never once have been thought of maybe just take me to the store buy some plants for me to put in a pot while they do whatever. So two days before he said we will do what I want to do just the four of us. So I had to think of something....great another thing for me to do. Well while getting wires put on and I have to stay calm he gets a text from his brother. His brother asks about going out to brunch with his mom for mothers day and guess who gets pushed to the side...you guessed it me! I had to stay calm so didn't say anything and was trying hard not to cry. After I get them taken off a couple days later (Monday) I finally broke down. He asked what was wrong and I said it doesn't matter and walked off crying in the bedroom. I got done and cleaned up and stopped feeling sorry for myself. I went out and if finally dawned on him and he said we will cancel brunch and the four of us will do something. I said no because that makes me look bad and it isn't his mothers fault. Then I said you hurt my feelings becuase for once in 22 years I would have come in first and not an after thought but it will never change. He is constantly doing things for his mom which I get but his brother says he will help and never does. Then my husband wonders why I am upset and just sit and watch TV as he is busy with his mom or working on our things and doesn't have time for me. I really don't know what to do if they bring up the wire thing as I am just tired of things. What are your thoughts? Sorry just had to vent.