Jokingly threatening behaviour

[Kyrx94]

I’ve been speaking to someone. I’ve just moved to the area and met him, he doesn’t live far from me.

im a single mom and he hasn’t met my son or anything like that so we were talking about the house I just moved into and I mentioned bbqs in the summer he asked if he would be coming, I told him maybe we’ll have to see as obvs he knows he isn’t allowed around mine as my son is with me and I don’t want them to meet yet. His response was “I’ll just go to another girls bbq” I instantly knew this is not the guy for me lol but I responded with “I’m sure others would come to mine anyway” his response was “do you want to die” and then “I would break your arms and legs if you did that” now this was apparently a “joke” I don’t find shit funny about that. I told him that’s red flag energy and he changed the topic. I’ll be cutting contact with him and would you agree I’m right in doing so? And should I tell him why before cutting contact?

No just block him, strange guy!! Does he have your address?

you've already told him that what he said was a red flag. now you can block him.

Block him and forget about him.

He doesn’t have my address but has said his “sure” where my house is or could find out when I’d said to him I wouldn’t be sharing my address

Stay away from him.

I forgot to add I also said “woman beater?” And his response was “where is the evidence hahahaah” wtf

His message is the evidence the weirdo, have you googled him? Who jokes about that

Exactly! He genuinely thought his being funny, it can’t even be put down to language barrier. He is Albanian but instantly I just stopped replying after I said what I said. His just messaged goodnight but I’ve just not opened his chat. I’ve googled him but nothing

Just made me a bit sick to know he lives 7 minutes from me although he doesn’t know my address but does know I’m a single lone mum.

Jeezus.

He is a dangerous man. Get as far away from him as possible.

I would consider phoning 111 / none emergency police and request they make a record of your concerns; he hasn't done anything to warrant police attention yet, but the signs are there that he could become a problem

Is this communication all online or face to face?

Get rid!!

Definitely block him.
Do you have a ring door bell? If not a good idea to buy one.
If he ever turns up don’t engage with him. And if he doesn’t go away call police.

God, he sounds absolutely awful. I agree with getting a ring doorbell. Have you ever actually met him or is this all on the phone and messages?

At the very least his sense of humour doesn't align with yours and you'd potentially be setting yourself up for a relationship with a man who doesn't understand VAWG and who makes jokes about rape and espouses the values of Andrew Tate.

At the worst you could find yourself at risk of actual harm from him.

This is a man who doesn't care about or respect women. You've told him what the issue is, you don't need to tell him again and open up a dialogue with him about it. Just block him.

Block him but keep his details handy in case you need to report him. Hopefully not.