Ok Sweet or annoying? Was i Unreasonable....

[Julezboo]

So i have my first job interview this morning in 6 years. I went to bed failry early last night at 10-30pm. DP comes same time and we cuddle for a bit then I turn over to go to sleep. Then for the next three hours or so DP was telling me loudly how pretty and baeutiful I am. So the first few times was ok. But by 2am i snapped at him "Please just go to sleep, I am tired and have a long day ahead tomorrow".

Now I think I am being given the cold shoulder. Pretty certain he wanted sex but I was so tired and stilla bit achy from mc I pushed him away.

yes, sounds like he wanted sex. Sounds like bad timing though!

Good luck for your interview.

I would have been annoyed but good luck for the interview!

Men!

Good luck

Your dp sounds really nice and he chose a lovely way to express how he felt about you. He most definitely picked a tricky moment and I can understand why you felt tense and I'm so very sorry to hear about your mc.

To be honest, I think you were being unreasonable by snapping at him. Could you not have said something after 1h or so such as: Darling, I really love being with you like this but I can't relax and enjoy it because I have a big day tomorrow and I'm still feeling raw because of the mc. It means a lot to me that we're close but would you mind us doing this tomorrow, Tuesday evening, etc. and not now.

Let's not go down the 'Men' road. I've also met a fair share of unreasonable timing issues and demands by the female sex.

YANBU
I would have snapped at him after 5 mins lol

yes you were very patient to put up for 3 hours. and he is very persistent! my dh would have given up after 10 mins

Its like this all the time though. If he instigated sex just as we got into bed and didnt wait till I was asleep I would be fine about the whole thing Grr!! He's made a few arsy comments this morning too and he drags it out!

Alexa you say:'he chose a lovely way to express how he felt about you'

for keeping her awake for three hours, pestering her for sex, the night before an interview, and now giving her the cold shoulder?

Julezboo - your dp needs to get over it, and wish you good luck for your interview!

belgo, I never said she'd have to endure it for 3 hours. It's her own fault for letting it go on for so long.

If you got snapped at by your partner, would you be all smiling?? I think the guy chose the absolutely wrong time but a straightforward comms would have done it.

After max an hour or whatever feels right for JB I'd have been very direct with him, but in a nice way. There's no need to snap at the dh for a snuggle and the hope to get some. It's fair to say that being direct in the beginning would have allowed her to get sleep sooner.

Being woken up is not on, though.
Hope the interview went well.