This is currently my story I’ve been with my partner 9 years & we have a dd 4, I have a ds 17 from a previous relationship. We have lived together for the past 5 years. Before this my partner was lovely, so nice and him and my ds got on really well. Fast forward to us having dd and everything changed. I suffered PND which he had no sympathy for, my ds was a young teen at the time so didn’t want a baby sister so he ignored her pretty much for the first year. My partner doesn’t understand this and thinks my ds isn’t normal and it’s gone downhill pretty much ever since. My ds has been living with his dad for the past 2 years, my partner says he’s happy there now so I need to get over it and accept it but I know he’s only there because of my partner. He’s even said he wants to be with his mum but he won’t live with my partner & my partner won’t live with him.
we are currently pretty much splitting up but tbh I’m really gutted because I wanted my ds to have that family unit and I don’t want to be on my own again. My partners started getting nasty saying no wonder my ds dad cleared off putting up with me and he’s started turning on my family. I’m really close with my mum and I think there’s a bit of jealousy there. I’m so sad and don’t know what to do