Opinions please on new guy?

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Please, no horrible negative comments, just some words of advice please...
I've been seeing a man for 6 weeks now. A huge amount of chemistry and attraction and he's really nice, attentive in conversations and considerate, an all round seemingly good guy and we have lots of laughs.
We've had sex twice. The sex itself was incredible, he made an effort to stimulate me with his penis. Kissing is out of this world and we have long gazes of eye contact between kisses, having sex. It's all very passionate and enjoyable.
I never thought I'd be on here discussing this issue I have though as most of my past partners have always been happy to help me orgasm.
The first time he climaxed during sex. We had a lot of foreplay first, I was really turned on before penetration and during, he didn't just think of his pleasure. Afterwards he turned onto his back and chatted. I then made myself climax.
The next time we got intimate I told him what I liked last time and made all the right noises when he did amazing things to me, like caressing my bum, playing with me down there and giving me oral. I told him I loved him touching me. He's said lots since we got together how he loves all my noises and it turns him on more. So after sex this time, the same thing happened. He lay on his back, so I said 'would you play with me for a bit?' and he said YES seemingly very keenly. He started that and it was amazing and he seemed to get turned on again. BUT then he just stopped after a minute or two. Making me take over.
Like I said, most people I've been with have brought me to orgasm afterwards.
I don't know what to make of this... do I persevere and next time tell him I need more or am I concentrating too much on having an orgasm? I can easily do it myself but would prefer him to.
I know it's not his job to make me orgasm but normally, in my experience, men are realky happy to. Am I expecting too much for just having sex twice?
Please be kind, and offer a positive opinion please, thank you.

He sorts u first before acc sex

I would continue doing what you did the second time and include « keep going » and « don’t stop » in your noises so he gets the hint. If he carries on stopping before you come, have a conversation with him about it when you’re not having sex.

How is it outside of sex?

Thank you both!
That's a really good idea. Sometimes it's difficult to know what to do/say when you're in the situation. Everything is fab otherwise, makes me feel amazing, really nice guy.

I think he may have stopped as he thought I could do it better. Maybe I shouldn't have just done it last time. I don't want him becoming reliant on me doing it!

Honestly, I think he's being quite selfish. He should be sorting you out first, not treating your pleasure as an afterthought. Time for a conversation with him, I reckon.

I'm fine with my orgasm coming after, always have been with partners. It's never been an issue as they've always been keen to satisfy me.
He did say after the first time whilst getting dressed... 'it's difficult to know what each other likes when you don't know each other' unprompted.

In person or over text??? @DramaAlpaca

I think it would work better if you came first and then him. If he cannot be bothered about your pleasure every time because he is selfish, that’s is going to be a problem.

I think difficult conversations are much better in person. Not by text, it's too easy to get the tone wrong.

Yes I agree. Will do that, thanks.

What's the best thing to say? Never expected to be in this position!

I don't think I can wait a week until we're in the bedroom again, we'll see each other briefly in the week. I feel like it needs bringing up gently, after we kiss, maybe-'I'm really enjoying our dating. I enjoy you pleasuring me in the bedroom, do you like doing it? Or' I feel like you're not keen to carry it on'??

I think it’s the order/timing that the issue here.
He needs to make sure you’re taken care of first so if he’s worn out afterwards there isn’t an expectation for him to continue, when realistically all anyone wants to do afterwards is cuddle? He shouldn’t be putting his needs first then getting you to sort yourself out afterwards. That’s just plain lazy and inconsiderate. If this continues then it’ll become a major issue.

Maybe he thinks you’ve come with all the noises and you’re going for number two ??

maybe phrase it as , “this time I’d like to come first ? “

or “ I’d love it if you could bring me to orgasm”

Does he definitely know you haven't climaxed already, either through the sex, or the manual or oral stimulation?

Maybe he is finding it difficult to bring you to a climax?

I (a woman) have had sex with men and women. Some of thm (male and female), found it very, very difficult to "give them" an orgasm, and it didn't happen the first few times we were intimate.

For me, I do not think both parties have to orgasm on any given occasion for the sex to be considered a success. And I have always found it quite a turn off when I have got to the point that someone (male or female) clearly intends me to just keep going with one single repetitive act until they climax. There's nothing sexy about it, and (for me) it starts to feel a bit like the are just masturbating with your body to be honest....

I am not trying to suggest that my views are "right" or that yours are "wrong". But this could be a question of sexual compatibility for you and this guy?

Anyway, the key thing is that you both talk about it and discuss it. Try to avoid any "previous partners have...." type statements, as that can sound like you are comparing them unfavourably.

Before we first had sex, my current partner asked me "What do you think sex should be like?" It's an excellent question, and I was really pleased we discussed it before becoming intimate. This had never been my approach before, but it will be from now on if I become single again.

Good luck!

Thank you for all the replies.
@Ilovelurchers that's an interesting perspective and I see your point. My opinion isn't necessarily the right one, so thank you.
Well, I don't think he's thinking I've already climaxed but who knows, we barely know each other. I'm one for making lots of noise but that's because I enjoy what he's doing (I find it very difficult not to make noise!). It's not really a case of struggling to make me come because he's not' touched' or 'licked' me for long enough to think that.
I see your points regarding doing a repetitive act and it potentially being a turn off.
Will definitely talk about it without bringing ex's into it.
Thank you!