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Uncle is being financially abused

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Judepol · 03/05/2025 19:16

My uncle is being financially abused by his adult children in their 40s. He had a stroke 3 years ago and stupidly was storing 6k in his house. We knew about this money before the stroke so it’s not a story. When he was in hospital his adult children stole the money from his house as no one else had a key to the property and they were ‘checking’ his property was ok. You can’t prove it as it isn’t traceable.

His son has only seen his father 3 times in 3 years. In this time he borrowed 6k off my uncle a few months ago and then a week ago took my uncle to the bank and made him withdraw 12k to him. I am shocked the bank never flagged it up as when I used to take out 1k of my savings when I was on sick pay as I didn’t not have enough to live on I was asked lots of questions and was someone asking me to take the money out.

The adult daughter confirmed her brother had the 12k. Apparently the 12k is for some side hustle. The son and daughter have Power of Attorney. We were told it is illegal for Power of Attorney’s to be taking money out. My uncles siblings are furious but he lives hours away from his siblings as he lived years ago.

His adult children have always had the attitude he was a bad dad when they were kids and that they are entitled to his money. The son had 10k off his mum and she told him no more as his parents are no longer together. The son just takes money off people.

The son has a gambling and drinking habit. He is always going abroad multiple times a year. He even frauded customers out of work using a chip and pin machine asking them to pay thousands for the work then never carried it out. He claimed bankruptcy and never went to prison.

My dad messaged the daughter asking why has he borrowed 12k when he keeps going abroad. She has reported back as my cousin the son has now deleted me and another relative off Facebook. He still has his dad on there as he isn’t going to delete him as he wants money so he would see all the holidays but he wouldn’t even connect that his son is spending the money on holiday as he isn’t so coherent after the stroke.

The daughter promises the son will pay back the 12k in 2 months. I don’t believe them. If he doesn’t does this need to be reported to the police and adult safeguarding? I am so saddened that they would be treating my uncle like this and financially abusing him. He is a nice guy.

OP posts:
Miley23 · 03/05/2025 19:19

I think all you can do is report it to adult safeguarding in his local authority as a safeguarding concern. They will then look into it.

BreadInCaptivity · 03/05/2025 19:22

To be clear if your uncle lacks capacity that includes being able to authorise loans to his children, regardless of if they intend to pay them back.

Report to the OPG and your local authority safeguarding team.

lljkk · 03/05/2025 19:33

Where is your uncle living, who is looking after him, is his quality of life decent, does he have enough money to live on?

Does your uncle only have the 2 people talked about, one son and one daughter, as most likely heirs?

MoreChocPls · 04/05/2025 08:29

Definitely report.

Judepol · 04/05/2025 11:23

Thank you for all your helpful advice. We know what the right thing to do is now.

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lljkk · 05/05/2025 15:53

I hope you'll update in a few months, Jude. x

nhsmanagersanonymous · 05/05/2025 15:54

Report it and leave it to the authorities. People are bastards

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