Dh dragging feet on buying a house

[Sprinklepink]

So annoyed rn. Dh has been dragging his feet so much about buying a house. I save loads on rightmove and Zoopla and after 3 years of searching he said today he’s never noticed I’m saving properties to look at. I’ve asked him to view properties and he cba and today I said I think it’s best if we go into the estate agents as often they’ll have houses that aren’t even on rightmove etc and that can be very helpful as we’re not in a chain.

his answer is we’re looking all over the country how can we go to every single estate agent in the U.K. that’s a ridiculous idea.

we’re not looking all over the country, we’re looking within a 1.5 hour commute to London, which although is a large area, with budget constraints I feel like he could possibly work out a few estate agents that might be worth a visit.

just tired of it all today and ranting ahhh

@Kathbrownlow that’s a big concern for me as well. That even though we’re saving every month we’ll never save how much the house prices go up by. I really don’t want a fiat as they often come with service charges but that would be the only thing I could buy alone.

Having ownership of a flat is more than you have right now. Whatever he is playing at, don't let him drag you down with him. There are certain points in one's life where change can happen - I think this is one of them for you - don't buy and maybe never be able to buy again (or not for years) or buy and have an asset for yourself. You can sell up later on down the line once you meet a grown up man and progress to ownership of a house. At this stage, your current DH will probably just be entering into a house share and wondering where everything went wrong for him.

Could a spreadsheet help here to show him the benefits. Use a mortgage calculator to show your payments and what you own over the term and then show the rent you are paying and giving to someone else? Our first mortgage had payments that were higher than the rental for identical properties on the street and we had little disposable income as not great incomes. That all changed within a few years and now we are paying a fraction of our first payment. No worrying about rent increases or the landlord wanting to sell.