Romance is a big con.

[Janos]

That's what experience has taught me.

That, and you should watch out for charming men because they are usually hiding something (generally not pleasant).

Do you agree?

well....i kind of agree. for one thing im afraid if something(someone ) seems too good to be true, it generally is. And that th ehearts and flowers stuff is not what real relationships live on. but are nice once in a while. so, er, yes and no!

Aw, Janos
However, I agree to an extent. For me, romance is the little every day things like dh making me a wee cuppa or doing a task i normally do if I'm knackered.
In the past, the guys with the big bouquets and jewellwery did't last the distance.

I totally agree.

I used to write romance, too, and believe in it, too.

It's a con to sell you stuff.

End of.

Yes, hearts and flowers is nice on occasion I will admit. I'm not a complete cynic! It doesn't make a relationship though.

I was in a short lived relationship with a man last year that was just soooo charming and literally swept me off my feet! (he carried me down the street on our first date).

Things went rapidly downhill from then on however as the realtionship progressed. One of the things that kept me hanging on instead of telling him sharpish to get lost was that he had been just so lovely and nice..

Thankfully it didn't last that long..long enough though. And it gave me an insight into how you can get suckered in by charm.

Thank you nicky but there is no need to be sad for me..

I have had some knocks and bad times with men but they don't keep me down for long and have left me appreciating the good things in my life.

Plus,my relationship disasters have taught me just who to avoid like the plague!

I went out with a man like that, Janos. He was an abuser with a history of abuse.

Hi Janos how are you?

Not got much to say about romance righ now

Yes, this guy was too expat. I consider myself lucky that I 'got away' before getting involved too deeply.

When I look right back to the beginning, there were little clues but I just ignored them thinking..nah, he's not that bad or..nah, he does really mean that etc etc..

As the Bowling For Soup lyrics proclaim "love songs suck and fairytales aren't true". That statement is totally correct.

I disagree,

Sorry!

in fairness Bowling for Soup saying anything sucks is a bit of an oxymoron.

Well, I don't think I have met a man yet who has restored my faith in romance. Well if BFS suck, then I must do too, because their songs are about crap people like me!

Amen to the OP.

Amen to BFS line.