I know my husband for almost 8 years now. We been married for 2 years now and having long distance relationship for almost 6 years before marriage.
Husband previous relationship have one boy and he is adorable.
Thing is, husband ex's, let call her Jo always demanding and using the boy to make my husband feel guilty not to do or have to do even thought its not logic.
Let me give you the situation :
There a was party event in a place A. This is not only one time they been there, but like hundred time. She always asking my husband to teach her drive to the place each time. She is almost 50's now, does it make sense? I did once with them during the driving lesson and i heard she said "oh it's here" "let do it one more". I was like.... you go there and pass the area like almost everyday still need driving lesson from home to the place? does it make sense?
Not only party, school, therapist and what ever it is. But it seem fine when she go shopping, wander around even until out of the city.
When the car broke down, call my husband to help, my husband not mechanic, and she know a mechanic why call my husband. When husband go see her and told her to call mechanic she get mad said my husband is useless.
There one time, she come to my husband house while i was not there and luckily i was on phone with husband. She come to the house make herself coffee and telling husband, go on with you chat i will waiting. I heard her and asked husband to put me on loud speaker and she is angry and yell to my husband telling him bad person and not responsible dad.
As far as i know, my husband working his best to do co parenting and he never hide anything to me. We had transparent relationship and i know about their past before we marriage.
She always insulted my husband and sometime he just ignore it just to making sure he able to see the son.
She always said to my husband you didn't care about their son and always put your girl (me his wife) first which is so opposite. My husband and i always put the child first in any decision we made.
For her, one good thing you do, it's all gone when u make one mistake/refuse/not helping her.