How to overcome an aversion to mouth breathing?

[Shortbread36]

Some years after difficult divorce, my big sis has found a wonderful, kind new man. But she's never been with a mouth breather before, is struggling to get used to it, and on top finding it unattractive, suspects that it also contributes to his anxiety. He says no-one has ever complained before, refused to read "Breathe", but did go to the GP, who sent him to sleep apnea clinic (pointless - his mouth actually closes when he's asleep - it's the daytime that's the problem!). He now feels that it's "just the way he breathes" and that she needs to work on her hypersensitivity. Advice?

What the fuck is it anyway? Sounds like an insult from stranger things xD

What does he like, pant or something?

Surely it's all a non starter anyway if she's been like 'this thing about you makes me not attracted to you so could you read this book to fix that?' and he's gone 'no'.

He's not 'kind' if he doesn't care that he's driving her barmy. And she's...just not that into him.
I'd advise her to walk away. Someone getting on your tits ten minutes into a relationship isn't going to become MORE appealing with time.

Yes. ‘Hi, great first few dates! I’m really into you. Now, I need you to change the way you breathe. Completely. Weren’t you aware you’re doing it All Wrong?’

If it gives her the ick then she needs to move on. Personally it would repulse me. Like people who build up spittle in the corner of their mouths or goob in the corner of their eyes.

Why do I have to constantly use my lip balm then huh? Quit generalising. My lips are as dry as fuck.

It's really interesting how mouth breathing can have all sorts of knock on effects to a person. It can change how a child's skull/jaw/face grows and looks if not corrected and can cause all sorts of issues in adults.

Seems like the problem with this chap is he doesn't want to address it and doesn't care that it has this effect on your sister. Similar to when people won't help themselves with snoring etc even though it has negative consequences for their relationship.

https://tmjsleepandbreathecenter.com/does-mouth-breathing-change-your-face/

There's lots of other issues such as bad breath, dental etc too

I was once told that when someone says something is “literally” a, b or c, it usually isn’t literally whatever is claimed, and is normally more generally inaccurate as well.

I think mouth breathing is “literally an insult” demonstrates this neatly.

But it is literally used as an insult.

You used a lot of words there to demonstrate that you have no understanding of what ever it was that was said to you lol.

Are you serious. Misphonia is very common and can trigger anxiety .

I cant deal with this noise or people chewing it makes me sick.

Can I ask what nasal strips you use at night as I think I have a problem with my nose?

This is a woman trying to fix a man.

Such a basic life lesson. You can't fix 'em.

1. We have to accept people as they are. If they wanted to be fixed, they'd have sorted themselves out.

2. They may cooperate temporarily, but always revert to type.

3. Women need to stop doing this! We are not the nannies of the world to make men be reasonable humans. And it doesn't work anyway.

4. He's just not the right one for her. Maybe no man will be the right one. Meh. There is sooooooooooooooo much more to life than having a man. Particularly one that gives her the ick at the beginning of the relationship. Sooner or later, he'll revolt her.

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Saying someone is a mouth breather is a known insult. Google it. Hundreds of entries. It's along the lines of window licker.

Oh sorry, I see now what she meant. The way it was written came across to me as “ I couldn’t date a mouth breather as by mouth breathing they are literally insulting me.”

I was thinking they just can’t help it, not insulting you by mouth breathing at you. I was thinking that was OTT. Apologies: so many people use literally … non literally.

Are you seriously asking this question?! Where do I start?! You’re meant to breathe through your nose with your mouth closed! Mouth breathing is for when you have blocked nose!

I used to date a mouth-breather as a teenager and he’d be sitting watching tv with his mouth hanging open like 😩😧😸😲 and it just gave me the ick.

He had no clue that you were meant to breathe through your mouth and presumed I was constantly angry/sulking because I always have my mouth closed unless I’m talking or putting something in it. He was baffled that I didn’t breathe through it….
Whenever I think of his mouth hanging open it gives me the absolute creeps.

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And some people have permanently blocked/deformed noses. So they have no option but to breathe through their mouths.
The anger over this is baffling to me! I'd love nothing more than to be able to breathe normally but it's not physically possible for me to.

And some people suffer misophonia so 🤷 . What are you going to do?

If the noise bothers a potential partner, then they're probably not the right fit for each other.

I completely agree, it sounds like they aren't suited to each other. It's the level of vitriol directed at people who happen to breathe through their mouths that baffles me though.

Absolutely baffled by this thread. My DH has always had issues with his sinuses and often simply cannot breathe if his mouth is covered. However he’s the kindest and most loyal Man I’ve ever met, he pulls more than his weight in our home and with our Son and would do anything for us. But sure, none of that would be good enough for some because of the way he breathes. Trying to dictate the way someone literally stays alive is beyond my comprehension. Absolute peak controlling. If she can’t make peace with it then she should toddle off so he can find someone better suited to him.

Well obviously that’s completely different! This thread is about someone who hasn’t given any medical reason for it!