Attachment issues

[458a]

Ok, I’ve dating a girl from work , it’s not straight forward ; she’s a Muslim and I’m white. I don’t feel particularly secure in this relationship and the dynamic is very different in terms of the hoops I’ll need to jump through to be with her. She lives 2 hours away and I’ve had the convenience of seeing her whilst she’s at work close to as she stops for the week and then goes back. Next month she will be permanently 2 hours away so will need to figure out how this will work.

Anyway, I’m experiencing the worst anxiety when I leave her after seeing her all week that it’s starting to become a real issue. I can’t think straight and I feel in a bubble looking in from the outside if that make sense. She is consuming my thoughts and I just can’t seem to smooth myself .

something is triggering this but I really don’t know and I’m going round in circles. As an outsider looking in based on the brief details, do I just have an anxious attachment style? I’m constantly seeking reassurance and it’s beginning to look needy. The only relief I get is when she contacts me and I know she’s there. Never experienced this before in previous relationships

thanks

Honestly? If you don't see yourself getting married to her and converting to Islam, I'd back off completely. If her family are somewhat practicing you most likely won't be accepted by them. Not because they have anything against you personally, but because a Muslim woman can't marry a non-Muslim man. According to the religion, such marriage would not be recognised as a legal one.

I think the anxiety is real. I'm non practising Christian and have 'seen' two Muslim men.

The second I really liked but he kept pulling back - I found it hard to get out of my head the thought that he might be waiting to meet a Muslim partner. You mention being white but I think the major difference is in religion.

OP - First things first. Don’t expect people to make assumptions and get it right. Are you Mr 458a dating a girl from work or Ms 458a dating a girl from work? If this comes over as a strange question, lesbian Muslims do exist, even if many are under the radar.