Backstory in a nutshell:
Husband had some enforced time off last summer and been down in the dumps since then. Currently about to start counselling around a memory of potential SA as a child.
Our relationship has been waining for a few months. Sex life awful and intimacy a struggle (understandable if he's dealing with those childhood things) I don't think he's having an affair, I do think he's legitimately depressed. Lost A LOT of weight but was already slim so not in a glow up way as such but to the point he looks poorly. Not really eating or looking after himself very well for some months now. Of course I am trying to support.
Anyway, the other evening I was in the bath. I got out and came into the lounge and no sign of him. Food was in the oven and front door on the latch. I thought he may have taken the recycling down but no sign of him. After 5 minutes I went downstairs (we live in a 3rd floor apartment) and he was outside on the phone. When I opened the door he looked perturbed and said he was on the phone to his credit card Co as he'd lost his card. He said the call had disconnected in the apartment so he'd gone outside. It was 10.30pm. Never had any issues with reception in the apartment before. I Said given his current mental state it was not unreasonable for me to be concerned at him disappearing out of the apartment without a word...
Today I found said lost card in his spare wallet, with other cards. Maybe he did misplace it but gut feeling is off.
He doesn't socialise with anyone but me and works one day a week outside the home, the rest wfh (as I do too). I do try and encourage a life outside of us but he's always been very self sufficient in his own company.
I do think he's genuinely depressed and doesn't fit the mold of an affair as he looks quite unhealthy at present and by no means sprucing up his appearance and yet...
The phone call was a bit weird wasn't it?