I think I need to end my relationship

[Butter194]

I’ve been with OH for 13 years since we were young. Cut long story short I want children and he doesn’t and it’s putting a major strain on our relationship.
I think I have to end this now before it’s too late but I’m so scared and I will miss him so much :( has anyone felt like this? I just need to do it because I can’t look at my life in 10 years and see myself this unhappy still.
I will make an excellent mother and I know children are in my future and it breaks my heart I can’t do it with my current partner. I see all these family’s around who are happy and I want that.
Advice please 🙏🏼

Can I ask how old you both are OP? He is just young and not 'ready' for kids yet or is he dead set against ever having any? What are his reasons for not wanting any children?
Nothing against those who don't want kids, it's a personal decision and no one is right or wrong in their choices.
If you don't think there is any possibility of him changing his mind then it may well be best to move on. If children are a non negotiable for you then you need to find someone who wants to make the same major life decisions as you. Having children or not is a huge thing to not agree on and you may well resent him if you stay with him and give up your dream of being a mum.

I’m early 30s & he’s late 30s. I didn’t really want to include this but I got pregnant last year and had a regretful abortion as he just didn’t want kids. He’s always said it & been clear but me being me thought he would change when he’s older & to be honest I wasn’t too bothered myself but one day something just changed.
It’s something I didn’t want to have to go through on my own and him resent me if I kept the baby. I do regret it and I’ve got to live with that but after seeing how he was through the whole process it made me see how dead against it he is.

I'm so sorry you went through that, what a difficult decision that must of been for you. Clearly he won't change his mind then.
If I was you I would put yourself first, ask yourself what you see in your future and if that's him and no kids then stay but if you want a child or children then I would walk.
It's hard enough having kids with men who say they want them (I have 4 with my ex husband and then 2 years ago when the youngest 2 were 8 and 10 he told me parenting wasn't for him anymore and he just stopped co parenting altogether!).
Put yourself first OP, you deserve to be happy 😊

I'm glad you're making this decision and taking control of your life. So many threads on here by women who stay with a partner who wastes their fertile years.
Stick with this decision, it's the right one for you.

I am sorry you're in this situation.

I agree with you that you need to end this relationship. You deserve better @Butter194 Much better.

Thank you all for the kind words. I was a child who was brought up by just my mum & have never known my biological father due to him ‘not being able to cope with being a dad’ and I just don’t want that for my own child or children. Thanks again all ❤️

My DH went hot and cold on the children subject in our early years (was a commitment phobe) but he never outright said no, never ever ever. As he got older (was already 8 years older than me) he warmed. Before we got married I made sure he did actually want them as it was non negotiable for me. By that time it was a firm yes and now we have 3. But if your partner is 100% against it I'm afraid you'll never change his mind.

You want polar opposite things. It’s time to move on. You don’t have forever. You’re already in your 30’s and you still need to meet a new partner, become secure in that relationship and I would advise marriage before having any children. It just gives you more security.