Porn during pregnancy

[Sam19800]

My partner absolutely hates me since she found out I used porn often whilst she was pregnant. She also found out that I followed several soft porn accounts of other women. She asked why I had to use porn instead of using our videos or photos. I told her I wasn't attracted to her as even though her bump wasn't that big, it made me feel odd having sex with her whilst she was more heavily pregnant. She said it has changed how she views me, that she felt beautiful whilst pregnant and it hurt her to find out I thought different. She thinks I want different to her, because of how often I used it. I'm finding it hard to convince her that I want to be with her, as the type of porn I used was very different to what my partner looks like. (I say this because we haven't been together all that long, and the pregnancy wasn't planned)
We have drifted a lot since and I don't know what to do to make her forgive me. I feel like I have ruined a special time. Has anyone else experience this and how did you get past it?

I don’t think I have anything helpful to say. I’m rather revolted by what you’ve said and I sympathize entirely with your poor partner who I would advise to run for the hills.

If this is real l'm not surprised she can't forgive you. Doing it was bad enough but the things you said to her were vile. Your poor partner!

I told her I wasn't attracted to her

That was a silly thing to say. I assume you'd never had a conversation about porn and she didn't say she disproved of it before.

You also followed porn accounts and sound like a sleaze.

You need to have a conversation when she calms down and apologise and ask what she wants.

If she asks you to stop watching porn do you think you can?

I think you’re disgraceful

This is very grim. Really hope it's a wind up. If not, I feel just awful for your partner.

If my DH had behaved like you did during my pregnancies I wouldn’t be heading for my 30th anniversary. I’d be long divorced. My only suggestion is abject grovelling on your part.

Indeed

You get off on watching women being exploited. Don’t come to a forum of mainly women and expect us to give you ways to keep your partner.

I hope this isn't real. If it I'd advise her to run for hills. On what planet do you think it's ok to tell the mother of your child you're not attracted to her and expect her to be ok with that?

anyone else feel schools/college term should have returned by now?

Another MN admin plant story. It's can't be real, just ask yourselves.

I always find this bizarre. I’m heavily pregnant and my husband is still attracted to me, not because I’m pregnant, but because I’m his wife who just happens to have grown a massive bump. I understand being more cautious around sex later into a pregnancy, but to flat out say you aren’t attracted to her is weird.

That said, pregnancy is a vulnerable time for women and she is probably more sensitive than she otherwise would be. What else do you do to make her feel desired? Do you tell her she’s beautiful? Compliment her? Are you physically affectionate towards her with no expectation of sex? If she wants to remain in the relationship then you need to start putting the effort in and accept that she feels hurt by you without trying to find excuses for it.

Did AI wright this?

You don’t sound like a good match for each other so I doubt it’s going to work out.

Surely this has to be a reverse

Hmm

The worst thing is, even if this isn't real, it is still very realistic. There are so many men who really will use and treat women like this and then seek out a mostly female forum to sort it out for him

Do either of you care that almost certainly on at least one occasion (probably many times more) you were watching women who had been trafficked/coerced?

Exactly this.

OP, if you are actually the woman in this as I suspect, he is on the wrong here.

He sounds grim

Gross