Help what this guy wants from me ?

[YourWildBluePoster]

I slept with a guy twice but we are not in relationships..The last time I forgot my earrings at his place.We haven't texted for couple day then I asked him if he found my earrings at his place he said yes he found them and that he will give me them.Then I replied with why you to give me them you probably busy I will send someone to pick them..And he left me on seen but okk because I saw that he is not in the town that time but when he got back he didn't replied texted either.. So I texted him again after couple days to ask if he can bring my earrings he said I so sorry I completely forgot I will bring them to you this Saturday evening is that oki? So on Saturday I replied to tell me where he can come to see if is oki for me?He didn't opened my message for hours and I unsend it ,then at 2 h night he texted with I so sorry I will come and bring them tomorrow...The next day I replied with I don't understand why you complicate I literally can send someone to take them!
Then he replied that he was sick yesterday and that he slept that night which is obviously I lie I think and asked me where I I am he will deliver them to me...Then I replied get well soon,I can't today but you can go if you want to my house and give them at the gate to security guy...He read message at night and left me on seen again?

So is this guy just playing with me ? Should I text him again to bring me them?If he doesn't want to see me I offered him way to give me them back without us meeting!

Casual sex with someone means they have no respect or concerned for you or your belongings.

He's not 'playing' he's just not bothered about you or your stuff as to be expected.

Makes sense,but that's way exactly I offered myself to send someone to pick them for me but he doesn't agree obviously he wants to give me them and I don't understand why... Mabye he's expecting sex again

Tbh, you seem to be making things complicated.

I think his first response suggested he expected to see you again and he'd give them to you then, and you went weird on him.

"Sending someone" is odd, isn't it?

What if I don't want to see him again...and if he wants to see me he can say directly not to take my earrings like excuse.
Also I mentioned to bring them at my home but he left me on seen again so I guess he doesn't want to do that...

Maybe he chucked them out? Or his wife found them and chucked them out?
Can you not tell him to post you the earrings or Paypal you fifty quid (or however much they cost)?

Jesus. He was planning on seeing you again and giving you the earrings then.

If you don't want to continue dating him or sleeping with him then you arrange to meet him for a quick drink or coffee to get your earrings back. Like a grown woman. You don't go sending henchmen or couriers round.

I'd be wanting to distance myself from you if I was getting these messages too. I'd be terrified if you suggested "sending someone" and wonder what world I'd got myself mixed up in.

Either sacrifice the earrings or go and get them.

He's looking for an opportunity to sleep with you again. He probably had another woman on Saturday night so didn't need to see you.

It's weird to say 'i'll send someone to pick them up though'. Like why would he want some random coming round his house?

Go get your earrings or tell him 'post them through my letterbox whenever you get a chance' and stop messaging apart from that.

This!

This makes sense too..
But he was the one that asked me to bring me them on saturday evening and he texted me that on friday,so if he had another girl why to ask me that?
I gave him option to leave them in my house too...

You both sound like hard work but unsending messages because they weren’t answered in the timeline you set is infantile behaviour.

Honestly what a lot of over dramatic navel gazing over a pair of earrings and a bloke you’ve shagged twice. What a lot of game playing teenage nonsense.

Reminds me over the ‘but whyyyyyyyyyyy’ poster who started endless threads overanalysing ever single thing a man ever did or said.

Either meet up and get the earrings or get him to post them - it’s not complicated,

I think definitely is not...
Because he was the one that asked me if is oki to come but then when I asked where and when he was the one that ignored my message I mean common we are all on phones...

It's blindingly obvious what he wants. He wants to come over to your place and deliver them to you personally, hoping you'll let him have some more sex.

Oh gosh, I had this scenario recently. Sorry to respond with a me scenario. If I had my time again, I wish that I'd written my stuff off as lost property (it was a few items more than earrings, sentimental and expensive) and walked away immediately. All felt very controlling with stuff having to be done on his terms. Then when I did drive over to pick my bits up, he completely freaked out, didn't answer the door and text me paragraphs as to how my behaviour was unreasonable and detailed all my red flags. Took him a further 2 and a half weeks of procrastination before they finally landed on my doorstep. A week later I also had another ex leave some jewelry of mine on the doorstep. I had a flurry of returned stuff 🤣🤣 Definitely as previous poster said, simply them trying to keep a line open. You get it back when they are 100% confident in their new set up.

Haha he can just ask for sex then ....

Wow I get it but I don't know if you read all text but he was the one that cancelled oh wait he didn't even cancelled meet he didn't replied either...just to text in 2 night that he will bring me them tomorrow and laying that he was sick 😑

I would do that old fashioned thing that's known as making a phone call. Sort it out in one go.

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