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DH driving me nuts with comments about women he works with

18 replies

JohnsonsIsBest · 17/05/2008 20:56

Hi I haveposted on AIBU about bumping off my (D)H as he has been making me want to kill him recenty by every day coming hme from work and talking about his day. nothiing strange there of course but he raves about how great the women are he works with and seems to spend a lot of his day talking TO them by the sound of it. I have confronted him about it MANY times but he just says I am being paranoid. blah blah blah

Has anyone else experienced this type of thing? I am seriously PISSED off with him and really love the time i have just me and DD.
Was TTC DC2 but am having second thoughts...

failing all else does anyone fancy doing him in for a percentage of his life insurance?

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SheWillBeLoved · 17/05/2008 20:59

The money would come in handy right now

What exactly does he say about them that makes you uncomfortable?

dizzydixies · 17/05/2008 21:00

have you met them?

I used to be a bit too but always fine once I meet them in person I'm a little at the thought I was ever bothered

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JohnsonsIsBest · 17/05/2008 21:04

it isn't necesarily the things he says about them, i guess. Its more how much he mentions them. Like i was talking to so and so and she said this and that and so and so said this really funny thing. he has lunch breaks with two women almost every day.

he has said when pressed that a couple of them are attractive but really its just that he talks about them ALL the time and barely seems to mention thje men!

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SheWillBeLoved · 17/05/2008 21:08

Hmm. Does he generally get on better with women than men? Some blokes are just like that, but I can see why it could make you want to punch him in the nuts

I'm trying not to think of the negatives about it right now until I find out the above

beaniesteve · 17/05/2008 21:09

Does he ever talk about the men he works with?

PosieParker · 17/05/2008 21:10

Meet him for lunch?
Failing that make sure he's well insured!!

PussinJimmyChoos · 17/05/2008 21:13

You need to talk about a guy you know (make him up if need be!) and how you have heard what an amazing schlong he has and what's more, he knows what to do with it....then sigh pointedly and say 'must be so nice not to have to fake it....'

beaniesteve · 17/05/2008 21:15

Just because your husband works with women it doesn't mean that he wants to sleep with them. Nor does it mean that they are predatory. He will come into contact with many women in his life. If he's an arse then he will sleep with as many as he can. Do you think he's that much of an arse?

dizzydixies · 17/05/2008 21:15

pmsl @ pussinJimmyChoos

tribpot · 17/05/2008 21:21

That does sound a bit weird. Albeit probably harmless. And you probably are being paranoid but equally in this case paranoid is another word for "possibly having a valid feeling" which he ought to address.

To put it another way, I come home and tell dh about my day and the people I've been working with, most of them guys. Not sure I exactly rave on about them, but I really do like some of them and I tell him about them enthusiastically. My dh should not read anything into what I say, in fact I deliberately tell him about the guys at work so he knows it's all kosher work talk, if you see what I mean.

branflake81 · 18/05/2008 07:49

YAB soooo unreasonable. These are colleagues and FRIENDS - why shouldn't he talk about them?!

My DP is friends with most of the women at his work and talks about them a lot. I know I have nothing to worry about, he is with me at the end of the day.

It would be more worrying if he didn't talk to you about them and was secretive.

detoxdiva · 18/05/2008 08:07

"He seems to spend a lot of his day talking TO them" ???

You mind your dh talking to other women?

They are his colleagues

SheikYerbouti · 18/05/2008 08:18

I work in an office full of men.

I love it, because we have a laugh.

I don;t fancy any of them (They are all 22 and they all have sill hair)

I talk to DP about them a lot and we snigger at the daft things they all get up to at the weekend.

I find other men attractive.

This makes me human.

I think YABabitU, tbh

tigermoth · 18/05/2008 09:03

Any chance of you joining a club or activity where you come into contact with lots of men?

Nbg · 18/05/2008 09:06

Join a 5 a side team.

OracleInaCoracle · 18/05/2008 09:09

YABU. i prefer the company of men to women. in fact my best friends are all men, i talk about them to dh and i would be incredibley insulted if he got jealous! he is uneasy about one of them, but he's my ex so undrstandable.

JamesAndTheGiantBanana · 18/05/2008 09:29

YANBU, most cheating starts at work so it'd drive me crazy hearing about these women too. (Thankfully the only two women in dp's office are old enough to be his mum) I think you should meet them, if you haven't already, see what they're like. It may well put your mind at rest!

OracleInaCoracle · 18/05/2008 09:47

but he has to work with them, should he not make friends with them? ignore them? wouldnt it be worse if he didnt mention them at all?

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