Just a lovely little tale of how sweet it felt to be able to tell my situationship of a year and a half that I had a boyfriend and that I didn't want to stay in touch with him.
We had been in a weird ambiguous situationship for a year and a half(ridiculous I know and totally my fault) he was also still on the dating apps during that time but would deny it and he updated his profile a few times.
I carried on dating other people as I knew I couldn't trust him and nothing would ever come of it. I couldn't quite get rid of him though as I did have feelings for him and the sex was incredible.
Anyway it lasted a year and a half and then fizzled out.
A couple of weeks ago, he got back in touch and asked to meet for a coffee, said he had realized now what he had and hadn't had the same connection with anyone else since ( he did admit he had been on a couple of dates)
I told him I had a boyfriend of a couple of months and that it wouldn't be right to meet him as he's an ex. He then said if anything ever went wrong between me and my boyfriend to get in touch as he would love a second chance and to do it properly this time. He said he was worried that I would have been already been taken but thought he would try anyway.
He then got in touch a few days later with a casual, how was your weekend text...I then had the great pleasure of texting him.back and telling him that I didn't want to stay in touch as it wasn't fair on my boyfriend and didn't feel right and then wished him well..He replied that he understood and wished me well and to reach out if anything changed.
Just wanted to share this story of me having the last laugh with someone who had the audacity to get back in touch after what he did. It felt so empowering.. it's like night and day compared to the person I'm with now who wanted me to be his girlfriend pretty quickly and came off the dating app and has been consistent and kind since we met a few months ago.