Accidentally stood on his foot....

[Beanybops2000]

So am I wrong? My partner was at the sink and I had just changed the baby's nappy so squeezed in to wash my hands, in the process I accidentally stood on his foot. No the heel of my foot...literally my toes were on top of his. I actually didn't think anything of it but he stood back and aggressively spoke down to me saying that hurt (it definitely didn't) I was taken a back and a bit stunned by his reaction and before he could take a breath he's demanding an apology over and over again so I walked away from the situation cause it just seemed so over the top and ridiculous like the way you'd expect someone to speak if the other person had intentionally jumped on their foot to hurt it. I then said sorry I didn't intend on hurting you, he was like why didn't you say sorry straight away, it's not about intent...., I went to explain that I was just a bit taken a back and then repeatedly he kept saying what's wrong with you what's wrong with you in front of our 2 year old and wouldn't let me speak so I ended up walking away from him.
Do I go and say sorry for stepping on his foot as if I've really hurt him after his aggressive over the top reaction and the way he spoke to me

Tbh this seems six of one, half a dozen of the other. He was unnecessarily rude to you but you pushed in front of him when he was at the sink instead of saying ‘excuse me’ and then proceeded to step on his foot and didn’t feel the need to apologise because there was no ‘intent’ behind your actions. Neither of you seem very considerate of the other.

Ah I didn't think to write....I did say can I nip in and wash my hands, he didn't have a problem with that, he turned the tap to my side. Also when I say step my toes were literally resting on top of his toes...I'm not sure I would even describe it as step.

I see you have posted threads about your partner before because of his harsh and unpleasant behaviour towards your children.
He sounds quite a nasty person and his reaction to you accidently standing on his foot seems a typical one given the other behaviours you have described.

Maybe I should just say sorry for accidentally stepping on your foot and see if he apologies for the way he spoke to me at the time and in front of our daughter....

You accidently stood on his foot OP after changing the baby's nappy. It really shouldn't be a big deal between a couple dealing with a young baby.
His reaction was ott and you seem so worried about his feelings, presumably because he is a nasty piece if work.

DP (when he was here) would have grinned and said 'It's OK, I've got another one'. Your DP is an arsehole.

My dh would have said something jokingly about my big flat feet and I would have said something back about him being all delicate then we would have got on with our day, he would never shout at me to apologise. Your husband sounds like an aggressive bully.

This man has something seriously wrong with him, @Beanybops2000

What is keeping you from having any kind of vision of a future where you don't live with someone who goes berserk over nothing?

That kind of aggression is not normal at all and suggests there is something wrong with him. Is he usually so horrible or just stressed by something? He has no excuse for being aggressive in front of your toddler. It would have upset them.

I wouldn't be apologising at all but would call him out on his behaviour if it is safe to do so. If you feel it isn't safe to do so then you need to have a think about whether you are willing to tread on eggshells the rest of your life.

How it should have gone-
you: I’m sorry are you ok?
dp: I’m ok /it hurts, I’d better look at it

you were at fault for not apologising straight away, you also don’t get to decide what does and doesn’t hurt him. But his reaction to your behaviour was also poor.

is he still bullying your 6 year old daughter on a daily basis?

No. I think it would be better for you and your kids if you paid attention to the below post by @Houseplantsaresoothing instead of trying to work out how you can appease your unpleasant husband.

I see you have posted threads about your partner before because of his harsh and unpleasant behaviour towards your children.
He sounds quite a nasty person and his reaction to you accidently standing on his foot seems a typical one given the other behaviours you have described.