Intimidation

[Delly9]

My partner went to meet some friends earlier in a pub as he hasn’t seen his friends in months as he is off sick from work. He has physical and mental health issues. He ended up seeing some colleagues who are managers and well known for bullying at work.

They were drinking in their work uniforms before work. The one manager hates my partner as my partner knew his girlfriend since childhood and when she asked in the early days what was her new boyfriend’s history my partner he told her he was a player. That didn’t go down well as she cut my partner off and her best mate as she said he was a player too. I think he was trying to warn her but it backfired.

Today this manager kept staring at h my partner, followed him outside to the cigarette area with the other managers and was talking loudly about my partner and rang someone at work to tell them my partner was there.

Since then this guy ignores my partner at work and looks up if they walk past. They used to be friends years ago but this guy gets fickle and drops people once he gets bored as he has had lots of fallouts.

This guy was shaming my partner in an online friendship chat group last year and when my partner told work they said it is nothing to do with work.

This guy is still cheating on his partner as various people have witnessed it but we stay out of it as she clearly wants to tolerate it. She even said the once she ain’t leaving him as he is ‘hot’.

Does that mean once outside of work people can bully and intimidate people?

I’m so confused …

I’m not confused but I don’t know enough about HR and the law to help. I’m sorry, what a horrible situation.

I think given the immaturity of the whole lot of them (your partner included), the company are better off staying out of it.

Did he click an air Z with his fingers, and make pigeon head movements when he told the woman her boyfriend was a player?

Yes.

HTH

They were drinking alcohol before work?

I'm not really sure what's going on but it sounds very immature. If I was your partner I would start making a note of comments made at work by this manager.

He can contact Acas for advice and check the employee handbook for information on bullying procedure.

I would avoid going to the same places as the manager before or after work.

I don't really understand the post.

Is it something like
-Your boyfriend is off work sick but chose to go to the pub and was seen by his managers who told other workers that he's at the pub.

Boyfriend feels intimidated by the boss staring at him while he was in the pub while off sick.

(All the stuff about online chats last year and players, girlfriends etc. are irrelevant)

This sounds like it might be the police??? If so and your partner is off sick and mental health is part of his illness, he might be best off going to HR to discuss changing roles and/or station or maybe even changing job completely. The stress of police work is challenging. The hideous culture within some staff groups is too much for most people.

The background was relevant to the post as this guy is still looking to continue the feud.

Ok. Probably best if he gets a different job.