Hello all!
I would love some advice on navigating finances when moving in with someone.
I own my house and my partner will be moving in with me. I would like to keep the ownership of my house separate.
I make double what he does and I am happy to split expenses equitably in that ratio.
My partner seems uncomfortable with the idea of paying 'rent' to me and said he would rather pay another expense entirely.
For example, he suggested he could pay for the car. Currently, neither of us drive. But let's say he passes the test soon, he is happy to buy the car and pay for all the associated expenses. However, he will be driving it to work as his workplace will be further away after he moves in with me. It's not like we're going to be using his car for long distances on a regular basis.
He also said he's happy to pay into a holiday pot.
I dont think car+ holiday pot is equal to what I thought he would contribute towards the house.
When I asked if he wanted me to cancel any streaming services (I subscribe to literally all and he doesn't to any), his reply made me feel that he won't be contributing towards that as he doesn't watch tv when I'm not around.
I disagree as I see it as a shared activity. I am happy to unsubscribe to any service he thinks is not needed and only keep those we both agree on.
I know he is a minimalist and has been living a bare minimum bachelor lifestyle. I feel anxiety building up because I am anticipating he won't want to share many of the expenses I think he should...I don't want to start feeling resentful that I am paying for more than I should be.
Any tips or advice on how I can manage my expectations? Am I wrong to expect him to share these expenses? Thank you!