He keeps replying to a woman who liked him

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My partner used to run a social group. A few years ago there was a woman who liked him but he was not interested as he was with someone else. He said if he was single he would have slept with her, he has ADHD so blurted it out. I don’t know why he thought I needed to know that.

She contacted him a year ago and asked if he was single, he said he was not and she tried to keep the conversation going but he didn’t respond. She has contact again a year later asking what he is up to and if he is with anyone. She said she is with someone. He has responded and showed me the messages, I didn’t ask to see them.

Why do men keep in touch with women like this? Is it if it doesn’t work out they have a back up plan ready? I just ignore men who try to reconnect when I am not interested or in a relationship.

Yup, back up plan.

How long have you been with him OP?
Have you had a conversation with him about how you aren't happy with him messaging this woman?
It certainly sounds as though given the right timing and opportunity he will be very willing to resume his relationship with her.

We have been together for 2 and a half years. He always tells me he loves me and glad we met. I don’t want to come across as controlling but I do think he is crossing boundaries.

But it’s the woman contacting him ,but he could of ignored her