A friendship one - what to do next?

[ZingyKoala]

Hi all,

I'll start by saying I am Autistic and that has led to a lot of friendships lost over the years. I can't stand conflict and often prefer my own company.

My friend cancelled on me a number of times and I actually wrote a thread on here about it. I took it literally that she didn't want to be my friend or only wanted a Facebook messanger friend to chat to. She would sent some texts after this looking to catch up but I ignored them as I felt hurt.

Some mutual friends got in touch with us both to explain both sides and we both apologised and I thought it was over.

She didn't reply to my last message and I'm left feeling like I don't know where to go. I'm really anxious about it and want her in my life. Do I keep trying?

I can think of lots of valid reasons why someone wouldn’t respond quickly to texts. She clearly values your friendship however as she asked someone to intervene. Is there any chance she’s someone who easily gets overwhelmed?

She usually always replies straight away. It's been about three months and at the weekend she was out happily with our mutual friends

It doesn’t look good.
You could try messaging her one more time and if she doesn’t reply, leave it.
Good luck 💐

It makes so stressed the thought of not getting a reply that I would prefer just leave it unfortunately

There’s nothing wrong at all with leaving it, if instinctively you feel that’s the right thing to do.
She sounds very unreliable anyway, so stick to reliable and genuine friends.
Time will help you to heal with this particular one 💐

That's how I feel; that's she's been unreliable but I've been made out to be the villain as I ignored her. I should have been more mature/confrontational perhaps