Relationship life advice

[libra89]

Hi I asked my boyfriend if I could meet him for the may bank holiday weekend but he said he can’t as he has stag that weekend. That’s the only weekend I have off work as I’ll be working the next weekend. Just a bit annoyed that I can’t spend time with him. Any suggestion what I could do for that weekend as I don’t want to be on my own.

@libra89
Do you have any sort of social live that doesn't include your boyfriend?
It's quite odd that just because he's away you're completely at a loss about what do to that weekend.
Do you have friends, family, hobby's, interests? Anything at all?
If you don't, then maybe you should look into how dependant you are on your boyfriend, and whether that's healthy. You need your own life so you don't fall apart whenever he has other plans.

I’m giving my opinion by what I see at hens and stags in general. Been together a year. In mid thirties

This!! I find it very weird that you don't have anything to do, or anyone to do anything with on a weekend off work!

Been together about a year. I am independent. It’s very hard to find time to be with him as he plays Gaelic football, goes to weddings and stags.

I do have a social life without boyfriend but it’s very hard to get time to be with him as he is either playing at Gaelic football matches, attending weddings and stags. I am independent. I do lots of things on my own when I’m not with him but I do get lonely when I’m on my own

What’s weird about it. Some people don’t have plans all the time at the weekend

It seems like you're not a priority which is why he forgot to tell you about the stag. You're below football and his social life.

Find someone who wants to be with you and treasures time spent with you.

You say you're independent and have a social life beyond your boyfriend but so far the only person you've mentioned you might be able to do something with for the weekend is your aunt.....that doesn't suggest much of a social life to me!
You're of an age where it's normal to have a lot of stag/hen weekends and weddings, it just sounds like your boyfriend has more friends getting married than you do.
It's ok to not have plans for the weekend, you just seem at a loss without him there. If you don't like that he has other plans so often then move on.......

How can you have an opinion if you haven't been to one?

I’ve witnessed a few on my outings

But you've only witnessed one specific type? If you're going out in city centres, you will see big, loud stag and hen groups bar-crawling and clubbing. You're not witnessing the countless other stag and hen weekends that are absolutely nothing like that.

One of my friend's hen weekends was at a country cottage in a tiny village. We went on a pony trekking trip and then had caterer come and cook a meal for us in the evening at the cottage and we cracked open the booze and played games and stuff. On the Sunday we went to a spa with mild hangovers. It was great.

Theres is nothing wrong with socialising with aunt I have other friends too.

This is an odd post
So here are some odd and less odd suggestions.

-see friends - if you don’t have many nearby, can you travel to see them?
-go to see a film, easy to do on your own too
-redecorate your bedroom in your favourite colour. Paint the walls change curtains new bedding, move furniture, new rug
-go to a great garden centre, buy some planters for the garden and plant them up
-paint a mural in your bathroom
-go to a museum
-go to a nature reserve take a sketch book or take photos
-go to a zoo, sketch, take photos. Get the best one printed and framed and put it up on your bedroom wall
-enrol on a new evening class
-join a Meetup group
-read a book
-binge watch a series
-find out what bands are on and go to a gig- easy places to get chatting to people
-go for a three mile run each day
-bake a cake in the shape of a hedgehog
-make a plan on how to expand your social circle
-join a dating site if you don’t see your bf very often maybe it’s time for a new one

Blimey! Whilst I’d never wish to go on a stag/hen weekend myself (I’d actually hate it intensely!) even I know that they are completely normal!! 🤦‍♀️

I think reading between the lines he sounds like quite a social person and maybe you enjoy stuff that’s a little less hectic or busy. Both are completely fine, but I think you’ll need to find a middle ground with him for future events.

Thank you this is what I was looking for