I've always had this underlying issue with my MIL since I've known her, me and her son have been together over 10 years and recently had our first child. My partner and her do not have a great relationship either but he had a good upbringing and always got what he needed.
She seems to have never warmed to me but am unsure if this is due to my partner and her relationship always being up and down. My family are all very giving and welcoming and have always spoiled my partner on birthdays and Xmas, however she is definitely not the same and I am not entitled in anyway to think that she should buy gifts on these occasions but when she has its almost been insulting to what she has given. I just brush it under the carpet and have been as amicable as I can with her.
We recently had our first baby and ever since then the issue with her has grown and I feel like I don't like her around my son but this could be due to how she is with me. There was occasions in the hospital after a very bad birth with comments she was saying to me that should not have been said in that situation that angered me and I think caused a bigger resentment.
When I tell my partner he doesn't seem to care as he doesn't care much for her so its not like he would say anything to her and I think she would just say I sound silly. But with messages she sends I know she is being vindictive.
Basically the thought of my baby being held by her makes my blood boil and I just don't know how to get round it, I think all of the things over the years with how she has been have just come to a blow in my head and now I have my baby I don't want negativity around him.
Am I being unreasonable and its just a me issue?