My boyfriends family hates me. But am I acting out of line?
I met my boyfriend 6 years ago when I was 32 and he was 22. I was a single parent to my 3 year old daughter. We dated for a year as I didn't want to rush into anything because of my daughter. A year after we decided to make it official. As soon as his family found it,this went down hill. His mum and his auntie decided to message me on social media telling me to leave him alone and I was too old for him. His mothers message said this is the last time I will be telling you to stop this and called me pathetic. His auntie warned me that she would come to my house. I was mortified and didn't want the stress especially that someone was now threatening to come to my house when I had my daughter to think about. So I ended the relationship and said I didn't need the stress. My boyfriend told them all to mind their own business and told me he didn't want to end the relationship. Deep down I didn't want to either so decided to try and ignore them. One evening we was out for dinner and his dad called, as my partner was driving, the call was on handsfree, his dad said "are you with that slag"
It was very hard but I just thought its me and my partner il ignore them. Fast forward 3 years I fell pregnant. His mum threw a fit saying he was too young at 25 to have a baby. She then came round 6 weeks later and sent me a message saying shes come to terms with it and we will both make great parents. Then all of his family decided to add me as friends on social media. They then was acting as my best friend because I was pregnant. I was amicable. When I was pregnant with my first child I felt extremely low the first few days because of the amount of family and friends that came to visit and it was very over whelming and I felt I missed out on bonding with my daughter in the first few days. So I explained to my partner that when our son was to be born, I didn't want to feel like that again and I wanted to have a few days just the 4 of us as a family and then parents ect can come round on day 3. He promised that's what would happen. Fast forward to the birth my partner was updating his mother on his phone all the time. He is a mummy's boy and is close to his family. Our son was born at 7.59am. I had to stay in hospital for 2 days. That evening he asked if his mum could come up. I was so exhausted after birth and didn't want it, I still had a cafiter in and blood on my legs when she turned up. She sat there taking pics, holding my son, getting my boyfriend to take pics while she posed with the baby. Since them I just cannot get over that he did this. I get that he wanted to share this moment with his mum however it was a broken promise and no regards to my feelings. The day after we went home and by the time we was discharged it was 9pm. We arrived home 9.30. His brother called at 10pm at night saying im coming round yo see the baby. We explained that we had just got home, I was knackered and it was late. We had a load of abuse from his brother saying he didn't care if I was exhausted, he was my coming to see me and that I was controlling stopping the family from seeing the baby. Since then over the past two years of my son growing up, his mum demands to see him ag the drop of a hat then moans if we have plans. My partner has said to her that she should apologise for threatening me at the start to which she replied no what she did at the time she thought was right. His dad is an alcoholic and dosent work, has been in a coma due to his alcohol intake and his dad treats my partner awfully, demands he comes and sees him at a time that suits him which is usually 3pm in the afternoon when he wakes up and demands he sees him on my partners day off but we usually have plans as a family on this one day as my partner works weekends. My partner has gone yo see his dad on Christmas dsy and because my partner didn't take our son he refused to open the door and left my partner in the cold. He borrows money of my partner all the time. Has missed my sons birthday and Christmas presents. I then told my partner that I don't want our son seeing his dad because he is a alcoholic and cannot speak without 6 swear words in one sentence and im worried that he will treat my son the way he treats my partner.so my partner has told him to sort himself out before he can see our son. Now he's sent my partner loads of messages saying im controlling, somethings wrong with me cause of the age gap and everyone thinks it. Ect. Just horrible messages. Am I wrong to not want to have anything to do with my partners family and to not want my son seeing his dad? Also its really making me feel different about my partner, deep down I can't get over him bringing his mum to the hospital and he's very close to his family which I find hard as he tells his family all my business even about my job my family everything and I just can't get over it all. My partner says he wants to keep everyone happy. Also I feel he's not listening to my feelings at every opportunity he gets, he's sending pics of my son to his family and face timing them and just always has my son talking to them ect. I know im in the wrong but I hate all this. I wish he would put us first and prioritise our little family.