I've been friends with 'S' for 20+ years, we started working together in out early 20's. S is a few years younger than me, and we kept in contact while she was at uni and travelling etc.
As we got older I settled down and had my first DD at 27.
S actually came back from travelling and moved into a shared house right next door! She was a good friend, she would help me with the kids, we'd go out when we could and generally got on OK. I will say none of my friends particularly liked her as she can be very bossy and overbearing, bit me and my husband always liked her company.
As the years went on I moved away and we grew apart a little bit still saw each other when we could.
S then moved nearer to me as city house prices were so high.
Despite dating S never found a man and desperately wanted kids, so two years a go started IVF with a donor. She now has a gorgeous 18mo, I was her birth partner and have tried to support her where I can, but my life is very busy with full time work, 2 teenagers and a masters degree, plus other stuff.
Lately I'm finding it really difficult to be around her, she's always been quite depressed, and a bit of a Debbie downer, but lately she just seems so fed up. I know it's hard being a single parent but she has out herself in this position. Iwe meet every 4 weeks or so, I like to see her DS as he's lovely and she's doing a good job. But she never asks me how I am, is very judgemental of others and is very bossy. I know people with young kids are all consumed, I was there once too but this is more than that.
Has the friendship just died? I don't even feel that sorry but just don't know what to do next, I'm just trying to spend and less and less time with her.