Relationship anxiety after having child

[WishfulTTC92]

Please excuse the long post but I'm feeling so low.

I'm 18 months post partum and feel like my relationship has changed so much with my DH since my DD came along And I'm worried this will be the end of us after 15 years.

I know I love my DH, but I feel like I don't have the same attraction to him anymore. I keep looking at him and thinking 'you're not attracted to him' and it makes me feel sick. I love him, but this intrusive thought keeps coming back to me.

I didn't have a great libido before but it's non existent now. I adore spending time with him, look forward to it, enjoy are life as a family of 3 but I'm worried we've become mum and dad and that if the attraction is fading then we are destined to fail.

He's an amazing dad and does his fair share so there's no resentment.

I just wondered if anyone else had felt like this and their relationship survived? Is the attractive part just something that changes as its a long term relationship or should I be worried?

I'm speaking mental health support because I have found I'm extremely anxious all the time and this is getting me really low. So please be kind

@WishfulTTC92 I don't think your situation is at all uncommon. The great thing here is that you recognise the change in the relationship and how that is a risk, that puts you in a situation where you are able to act positively to prevent any situations which might be creating your anxiety.
The next step for you is to turn all that energy you are wasting being anxious in to positive action that can help make you feel less anxious.
Step 1) Make time to talk to him about how you feel, and ask him to he honest with how he is feeling about the relationship.
Step 2) make time for yourself to understand what is making your libido so low. Is it tiredness? The trauma of the birth? Ability to see yourself as a woman and not just a mother? Your feelings about your body after the birth?
Step 3) Maybe seek counselling? Or at least find ways to spend time as a couple.
I hope that focusing on doing something positive will help your anxiety x

You might be depressed, it might be hormonal or you might be exhausted. It's common for libido to decrease after giving birth and breastfeeding.

Thanks for the replies. I'm no longer breastfeeding, stopped about 7 weeks ago.
I'm trying to keep myself distracted and just say they're intrusive thoughts but when ingredients quiet time I spiral a lot.
Has anyone found after such a long time they feel like they really love their partner but don't have the same attraction?