No idea what to do or where to turn.

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This is going to be long and messy so please bear with me. I'll try to keep it as succinct as possible.

I posted a couple of months ago for advice as I was contemplating a termination of pregnancy. I stupidly didn't go through with it and I'm now 17+2. Was hoping the relationship I'm in would get better but sadly it hasn't.
In the midst of all this we have moved in together and it just isn't working. Both of us have left our previous rentals in other towns to move in but sadly the relationship has broken down.
I am booked in for a termination soon which is not a decision I am taking lightly. I feel completely consumed by emotion and anxiety as how to move forward after this.
Neither of us can afford to move out right now as we spent up moving in to this new rental together and so need to manage somehow until we can make arrangements. Most of the reasons for my decision to terminate is a major lack of support which I suspect will continue during/after the termination and I'm honestly terrified about how I will cope with it all.
I just want to run away but I know I have to face it all. Coupled with the fact that I just need him to move out so that I can stop treading on egg shells and reduce my anxiety but he can't afford to. I also worry whether I can afford this new rental on my own as it is £250 more per month than my previous on my own. Obviously the long term plan was to split everything so it was affordable plan when we moved. Everything is just such a mess.

Please ignore the previous poster.
I'm sure you've thought long and hard about the termination and legally you are within your right to do so. This is your life. Stand by your choices
You will be okay.
That doesn't mean it will be easy. Take things one day at a time. Let people be there for you while you grieve the decision you've had to make. You can get through this.

OP, you are doing the right thing for you and the best thing all around, really.
I wish more women were as brave as you.

Seriously?

This is a dangerously idiotic post.

How so? I'm suggesting other options. Obviously she will do what's best for her but sometimes you can't see out the box your in. I'm not judging her, just giving her other options. I'd want to know all before making a decision.

@RWSS Do you seriously think she doesn’t already know that’s an option?

A foetus is not "fully grown" at 17 weeks gestation and your "moving" comment is silly. Foetuses start to move at about 12 weeks.

The OP has posted here for some support and you are just trying to make her feel bad, presumably because of your own beliefs.

She didn't mention it as something she's thought about.
Have you been pregnant? I have so I know how difficult it is to see an overview.
My post wasn't to shame, she will do whatever is best for her.
And by movement I meant you feel them.
I dont want op to have regrets years later because she didn't know she had more choices.
It's got nothing to do with my beliefs- I'm not against abortion.

Can you move in with your family until you work out what you're going to do? Can you move into a houseshare?

Oh lass. What an awful, awful place to be in. You really do have my sympathies. Can I just say that when I was 22, I was in EXACTLY the same situation as you. Exactly. I chose termination and I was around 18 wks at the time of the procedure, partly because the NHS dicked me about. It wasn't an easy decision at all and I felt truly awful about the situation, but I was doing what was best for me and my other child. I realised that the abusive fuckwit I was with was never going to be of any support and that ALL of us were going to suffer, possible for decades. I debated adoption but for me, I knew I couldn't get through the pregnancy. I had absolute clarity for once about where it was going and that was dodge city and even now at 54, I know I made the right decision for us all. Doing this is the first step, the next is to give your notice to quit on both the relationship and the house.

I agree, is there not a house share in your original home town that you can move to in the meantime, or a friends spare room? Where I live there are HMO's for professionals such as nurses etc, and they're lovely and well maintained and honestly require virtually nothing by way of a deposit. Keep an open mind. You could stick your stuff in storage (there are often lots of deals for reduced prices where it's short term), or a garage rental. There's also Openrent which often has cheap rooms to rent.

You're a brave and sensitive person clearly, and you have got this. You can do it.

Hi, I think you're very brave and I wish you all the best. You sound to be doing the right thing - stay strong and reach out for support from friends and family where you can. You were going to terminate before so it sounds like this is what you really want and I'm quite sure you're not taking this decision lightly, just do what is best for you x

Can you move in with your family or apply to the council and get a flat? You can work this out for sure x

How many bedrooms are in the rental? Can you speak to the landlord about having someone move in to the spare room?

You could rent a room out, or have someone else on the tenancy.

If you are unsure about finances, and that's impacting the decision to terminate, you could look at a benefits calculator as you will be eligible for benefits.

Im not judging either way, you need to do what is best for you. I'm mentioning it as I suffered with prenatal depression and couldn't look at my options clearly.

If you are stuck in the rental, you could apply for a discretionary housing payment to help with the increased cost of the rent as a single person.

Do you want to explain your income and costs so that we can help with what you are entitled to/how to budget?