Sexless marriage vs. exes

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I’m married since 15 years and we have a 13yo daughter. We love each other. Mostly, I’m very happy with my life.

But there is a problem: my wife’s need for sex has virtually vanished. She says that it’s because of our daughter who has special needs and requires a lot of attention and energy. And I believe her, I’m quite sure she loves me just as much as I love her.

But I really miss the sex, it’s now been 6 years since last time.

A few months ago, one of my exes started messaging and it developed into sexting. She now wants to meet and ”see what happens”.

I don’t know what to do.
I still love my wife and don’t want to leave her.
But the prospect of getting sexual attention from someone is very appealing.
My ex is also married and is in a similar situation.

A part of me feels that meeting her for some physical activity could increase my wellbeing and make it easier to live without sex with my wife.

What are your thoughts?

First, you stop texting your ex. Second, you talk to your wife with an aim to resolving the situation, whether that be you and your wife having sex, you seeking sex outside the relationship with her blessing, or ending the marriage completely.

Then, and only then do you start having sex with other people.

😂

❤️ Mumsnet. Because he's (shock horror) a man, with (the humanity!) a sex drive, he must of course be a completely useless waste of space who contributes nothing, leaves everything to his long-suffering, run-ragged wife, and therefore deserves every second of those six sexless years.

And he should be thankful for them!

Go ahead and divorce her. She'll probably jump for joy!