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I feel so stupid

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advice · 16/05/2008 21:04

Have posted before about my seperation. Was starting to feel back in control and could see a way forward without my husband.

Last weekend my husband told me he had made a mistake in leaving and wanted to move back in. We had a nice weekend with family BBQ's etc, he told my 3.5 year old he was moving back into the home (he was really excited) and booked a family holiday for the first week in June.

On Wednesday he came round so we could spend the evening together - I cooked a meal with some nice wine and stupidly I slept with him.

Husband woke up in the middle of the night when our 3 year old came into the room and baby started crying (there was a thunderstorm) - Husband lost his temper and said he couldn't sleep and was going back to his flat.

He rang to apologise at 6am then at 9am sent me an e mail saying he had changed his mind about moving back in but still wanted to go on holiday and would stay with us this weekend.

This evening he turned up with no bag and said he had changed his mind - said his heart wasn't in it.

Called him about 20 mins ago to ask if we could talk and he said he was going out with a friend and said as far as he was concerned our marriage was over.

I feel a real idiot and am sitting here in tears. Why did I give him another chance? I was just starting to feel stronger.

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savoycabbage · 17/05/2008 12:52

I can hardly believe that he could do that to you and your children. What a wanker. You are not at all a prat at all and he is completely, completely in the wrong. You are going to be much better off without him in the long run which doesn't help now but your life has got to be better without a wanker in it.

naughtynoonoo · 17/05/2008 13:07

soo sorryy advice, he sounds like a complete c u next tuesday. Please do not give him any more chances. He should explain to your 3 year old and not leave it to you. He sounds like such a spoilt brat who doesn't derserve you. You are worth so much more than him

tribpot · 17/05/2008 13:29

I think he should have to tell your three year old. That really is the height of cruelty - and what he's done to you is not much better

So sorry.

me23 · 17/05/2008 13:33

I'm so sorry what an absolute wanker he is

savoycabbage · 17/05/2008 13:36

I would want to tell my child myself as god only knows what he will say. Obviously it's not going to be easy but at least if you do it you know that you are putting your child first whereas he clearly thinking of himself and only himself. Again, what a wanker.

knockedgymnast · 17/05/2008 13:37

The positive side of this is that you could see the second chance you gave him as also a second chance for you. Now you know what he is like it will get easier. At least you are safe in the knowledge that you tried, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. Sometimes it's better the devil you know. At least you don't have to be wondering "what if?"

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