Me and my DP have been together for ten years, lived together a couple of years. Before I lived with him he was amazing, but that’s changed.
I have recently been diagnosed with a serious heath condition and he’s checked out. He takes me to medical appointments but totally minimises the impact it’s having on me. I’ve been really unwell with the treatment and have passed out a few times in public. The latest episode being Friday.
He’s drinking more and often out at the pub. When he comes home he’s not interested in talking to me or spending time with me, claiming he needs “me time” often staying up drinking until the early hours and being severely hungover the next day.
He has totally gone off sex with me claiming low libido. I understand this happens but I’m getting no care or affection at all. However I have discovered he is looking women up online and viewing porn. So I know the issue is me.
He’s came home tonight from the pub and I thought since I was left alone the full of Easter we could spend the night together. I’ve watched him sleep on the couch for hours then the second we came to bed he’s disappeared for “me time” to drink more and listen to music. I asked if this was something we could do together and I was told “I was crazy” and “he’s not putting up with this anymore”. Take my illness out or the equation, if I was perfectly healthy, I would still want a partner who was present. AIBU?