Don’t know what to do.

[Glinda31]

So I helped a friend out a few months ago? Leant him month. Since then we’ve spoken every day, texting all the time. Getting on brilliantly, sending sexy messages and photos . I have feelings for him but haven’t said as he’s recently out of a horrible relationship.
last weekend he went to visit a ‘friend’ for the weekend and I’ve just found out she’s here at his this weekend and I’m so so gutted. But I don’t know how to approach it.
Have I any reason to be annoyed and hurt?
or do I just have to let it go?
any advice is welcome.

What does “leant him month” mean?

You've given him money and sent him.sexy photos ? He sounds like he's using you.

He must be very aware you are into him.
Has he made an effort to speak to you about going on a date?

Don't let him string you along for his kicks. If he's seeing this other person, then step away, busy yourself in doing stuff that does not involve him.

And get your money back.

Oh dear, he charmed you so he could borrow money. What a nasty, amoral person.

Get your money back. And detach.

I presume you mean you lent him money?
How long had you known him as a ‘friend’ before you gave him money? I would ask for it back rather than make a fuss about his other female ‘friend’ otherwise you have no chance in getting it back. If necessary lie through your teeth & say you desperately need it back for something.
Then if he returns the money kick his lying, using, cheating arse to the curb and never lend money again.

Yes - leant him money. Feeling pretty stupid for it now. I’ve known him about 2 yrs.

but you are all right, and I think I know that deep down. Just wanted to hear it from other people.

and yes I’d like the money back, but it’s really not that bigger deal financially if I get it back. But morally - yes I should get it back. And if he’s taking another woman out, he has money to spare!

THANK YOU for being so honest. We need to hear it.

Lent not leant!!