Help me please

[schmoopoo]

DH has just had a real go at me. I am a waste of apce and a F* pain. i only work 12 hours a week and look after the house and kids etc. I just want to go

That's a terrible way to speak to you!
is this a common occurance?
btw, I am not an expert on this topic, but and for you.

Yes it is. Even my 3 year old ds tells me I am rubbish now. i have a solicitors appointment on Monday. I just want to run away

That's rotten for you.
Is there anywhere you and ds can go right now? Family, friends.

You are going yes? Does he know this? I remember reading about your awful H. You might not be able to run away immediately but you are taking steps. Keep your chin up and try to ignore him/not get into arguments. xxx

could go to my mums but they live a longway away and what about school next week

Would it be worth forgoing school for a short period or enrolling them near your mum?

could do but will it look bad in the custody battle we are going to no doubt have

Any way you could get rid of him from the house?
i'm guessing not...

What's more important in the long run: your ds going to school, or teaching him that it's not OK to treat people as your h treats you?

Go and see your solicitor on Monday so you know how to escape this man. If you need to go to your parent's in order to break the chains, then do so, but you must get professional help so you know what you need to do and what your rights are.

He won't go it is his house !!! He says. Will wait till Monday and hope I can get away over half term. i just feel so bad about uprooting the children

Make sure you don't let your 3 year old get away with repeating those things - that would be terrible for him and you. Keep a diary of all abusive events and comments from your DH which will help your solicitor get a good settlement for you.

I will I just wish he would die

Good on you for making plans to get out.