Just told DH I want to divorce

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Been together 13 years and have two young DCs. Our relationship constantly swings from high to lows and I just can’t deal with it anymore. We are either happy and close or arguing. We’ve just had a huge argument because DH called me lazy (I work 45 hours a week and housework and childcare is split 50/50 so how I can be lazy I don’t know) but it’s resulted in a huge argument with me very upset and him laughing in my face. I told him how can he laugh when our relationship and whole lives are on the line and his response is I’m a psycho. I’ve told him I want a divorce and now that’s out there. In truth I don’t know what I want but perhaps we need a trial separation.

how does anyone even manage to divorce? The financial implications and the effect on the children? Where do I start properly thinking about what to do next?

I have no idea how to proceed but am in the same boat. I’m going to book in with a few solicitors to get some free 30 mins consultations to see where I stand.

Get legal advice and research on the internet including gingerbread.

Theres no rule book for separation. Everything needs to be negotiated eg finances & childcare. There’s always the threat of court which is very expensive & I was advised that only the lawyers win then. I assumed o would be told what I would be entitled to but it isn’t as clear cut as that. I suppose each situation is difficult. I’ve had to renegotiate and adapt as time goes on so it’s not been a one off thing although the divorce coming through was a relief.

It’s not easy on anyone but it might be the lessor of two evils so to speak.