This is an isolated incident but the summarised back story is essentially that nothing will get done unless I ask for help...but to me it seems that I need to ask for help even when it should be obvious that you should help someone?
DH is off for the bank hol. I'm a SAHM. Yesterday I took DD who is 2 to my mums house alone for 4 hrs so he had some time to himself. He works hard in a professional job at senior level.
I asked him last night if he wanted to some to the zoo with me and DD today, he said no and that he was tired. This is genuinely not a problem as often things go smoother without him there.
Anyway so this morning I get up, get me and DD ready, breakfast etc. I make lunch for us to have at the zoo. I prep tonight's dinner. I'm putting everything in the car. I'm also 5 months pregnant.
DH has made himself a coffee and is watching TV.
I'm carrying the pushchair through the house, trying to keep our 2 dogs and DD out the way and DH is just....sitting there watching. I give him a look. He starts saying 'what? What?'. I'm like 'if I had a wife who was 5mo pregnant and could see she was struggling to carry a pushchair I'd help'.
He then stands up huffing saying 'well you have a mouth'. As in I should ask for help.
Thing is. I have asked many times and it's just met with him being annoyed. And he will do what I've asked but who wants someone to help them while also making them feel bad for the help? And it's like, I'm taking DD out so you have the whole day to yourself and you still can't help without being explicitly asked? Eurgh.
Am I asking too much? I feel like I've genuinely lost sight of what's normal!