How to cope with nosey people and intrusive questions

[Irish24]

Just a rant. It baffles me how much people need to know about others lives? You may wonder or think yourself but I just always know not to ask not directly anyway. Especially the ‘when are you having children?’ Such a personal question and people think you automatically have children once you get married. Are people not educated or something that they think it’s supposed to happen right away? What do they think happens that a baby arrives in a stork once you get married? For some people, they may struggle to have children or don’t want children. Ultimately, it isn’t anyone’s business. Then once you pregnant it’s the constant questions and stupid comments people make. Should you be doing this and that? Pregnancy isn’t a disability. I don’t know if people think pregnant women just lie in bed the whole nine months and ring a bell for their partner/husband to demand things. What is the deal with this? I just don’t get nosey people lol

Raised eyebrow & say I’m not having this conversation Keep doing it on repeat

Make sure you take your time and speak slowly

I just ignore the questions. People can ask whatever they want (and demonstrate that they've been dragged up) but you don't have to answer.

Just say you are still at he practising stage and dh is very bloody good already....

I’m a private person myself and maybe it’s just because it baffles me how nosey and personal people are. Why do they care so much? Unless someone brings it up to then I will maybe ask questions but if they don’t then that’s their business

Hard stare.
Say "That's a very personal question."
Ignore the question and move on to a different topic.

Or, just go with, "Are you asking me about my sex life?"

They haven't been taught to respect other people's privacy. They want to judge and gossip. I wouldn't worry about being rude back.

I have had previous work colleagues like this who I have deleted and blocked from social
media mainly because of nosiness and judgy comments about other people in the work team. So obviously they would have been talking about me also. I told them very little about my personal life also. Doubt I will ever see them again so I don’t care

Tell them your prefer to swallow and then keep away from them.

I deliberately tell nosey gossipy people blatant lies to give them something to gossip about

I wouldn’t even give them the satisfaction tbh but yeah it’s funny when you tell someone something and the story somehow gets changed lol it really baffles me. I tell them very little if they ask me something personal or else change the subject and I find that pisses them off more 🤣🤣

I hate nosy questions too. I don't know whether people are ignorantly thick or if they know what they're doing.

Yeah it’s like some people were brought up with no morals, don’t think or don’t understand boundaries or know fine rightly and just trying to get information out of you. Like worry about your own life rather than other people. I made the mistake of confiding in people before and my trust got broken so when I see behaviour like this I just avoid at all costs. Even some
nosey neighbours in my street wonder why I barely talk or bother with neighbours lol this is why. I say hello and am polite and make small talk about the weather but that’s it.

‘That’s an interesting question to ask out loud’

Yes just bypass and pretend you've not heard. If they persist, say clearly but firmly it's not a question you'll be answering.

I also find that nosey people are so private. You're not allowed ask them any questions. I'm actually allergic to nosiness and run from nosy people.

Just ask them directly why they want to know that, then watch them stutter and squirm.

Most people think that small talk involves taking an interest and asking questions. I personally enjoy people reaching out and chatting with me even though not everyone has Oprah level conversation skills. I would hate it if we reached a time when people stopped talking altogether to avoid offending people

I am the same but you just know when someone is either curious or just being nosey and gossipy. I’ve a guy in work that would ask some personal questions but it seems to be more out of curiosity rather than sheer nosiness. It’s when the people that go around and spread your business around to others for a gossip is what I avoid and hate.

I get this with regard to my disability. I use a walking stick when I'm out and about as I have arthritis in my knees and hips. I get truly fed up with people saying 'What have you done then?' as if I've had an accident that has caused me to walk with difficulty. Sorry,but I don't feel inclined to discuss my health issues with total strangers.

It wouldn’t even occur to me ask a stranger ‘what happened?’ If I saw them on a walking stick. Unless it’s a close friend and they just started using a stick.
Very strange to ask a random person.

With utterly outrageous answers.

To the child one; eg. - ‘I was thinking maybe tomorrow’, or ‘we’re keeping an eye out in Tesco but haven’t quite seen one we like yet’, or ‘hopefully soon, need to head off for a shag to keep up the chances’.

I hear ya, although it makes me realize how boring my life is because I have nothing going on worth gossiping about ☹️

I told a ‘close’ friend once that I was going on the implant and then she phoned me to say ‘oh I told my other friend and she advised to not get it’. I just went umm right ok? Is it her business or decision? Then she accused me of being jealous. I was in no way jealous. I was annoyed because she went and spread around a very personal decision and choice without my consent. I shouldn’t have had to say don’t tell anyone because I assumed she had the sense to not tell anyone. But clearly a lot of people lack common sense and courtesy. I do not speak with this friend any longer

I've had acquaintances recently ask if I've split up, got divorced and how is my house move going that I've not told them about. Pisses me off. Gossip to some, my life to me with painful experiences. If I wanted you to know I'd tell you.
I can't believe some people are so thick as to ask when a baby might be coming. Surely everyone knows by now you don't ask?

That does not even make any sense. 😶