Should I walk away from this friendship ?

[Goodfriendwhoisstruggling]

I have known my friend for 7 or 8 years ,she is a wonderful friend,but her choices regarding men/relationships are awful..
She was seeing a man ,who was very verbally,mentally, emotionally and physically abusive, numerous times she would end relationship, but would just go back again and again.i was there every step of the way to support her..
It came to a point where police were involved, he was arrested, put on bail .(during this time had met another guy) .the ex was stalking her but also I got dragged into this he would be outside my house too trying to intimidate me (and to be honest it worked I was worried)I have a young son,so I ended up buying 2 security cameras for my house..he was charged and as he pleaded not guilty it was going to go to trial ,so myself and friend would have to stand and give evidence..luckily he pled guilty a few days before the trial and was given a suspended sentence and a 7 year restraining order to not go anywhere near my friend or her 4 children ..so the new guy she was seeing for 9 months was going nowhere, ended it and I then find out she's been talking and meeting up with abusive ex,she said she can't stop thinking of him and still loves him..she starts seeing him again ..as you can imagine it didn't change ,there was an incident where the abusive man attacked 2 older kids 21 and 17 yr old..the kids called the police as they were terrified ,as the 17 yr old is classed as a child ,my friend asked me to sit in as an appropriate adult in his police interview..it was horrible. My friend convinced them to drop the charges ..and took him back brought him back into the home ....again after a few weeks broke it off but straight away started a relationship with another guy ,instantly brought him into the home,that lasted 6 weeks ,went back to abusive guy ..she ended it again after him beating her up,next day got with another guy brought him into her home,,2 months into this relationship she found out he was cheating on her,I have now found out she and her 13 yr old daughter was seen at the abusive exs house the day after she kicked out the cheating guy....
I've been there through thick and thin..dropping everything whenever she rings and support her..I've been firm and honest telling her that's she's skating a thin line of having her younger kids taken off her ..she brings different men into her kids lives repeatedly, she can't be on her own ..she needs to sort her head out and think of the kids ..I am struggling myself ..it's like talking to a brick wall ..in all other aspects she a wonderful friend ...but I wonder if I need to end this friendship or am I being a bad friend doing that ?
Advice please...so sorry for the length of this 🤦🏼‍♀️

She sounds like a monumentally fucked-up human being who repeatedly inflicts abusive partners on her children. She needs a bucketload of therapy and no dating. I certainly don’t think you should ever have ‘dropped everything’ when she called, and I think you should be very explicit about why you won’t be doing it any more, but that (if you want to), you’re still interested in a fruendship in the future, once she’s out of this spiral.

Some women just think with their fanny. Leave her to it.

Why you are doing this to yourself? Google “drama triangle “ and walk away from this friendship. I also think you need to work on your boundaries.

Her poor kids. And she finally left him after he beat her up, but not after she beat her kids up. I would stay in touch with her kids if possible (it sounds like some are adults now) as you’ve known them their whole lives but I would have to drop the rope otherwise at this point.

How exactly is she a wonderful friend to you? It sounds like she is making very poor choices which are impacting her children. I know you're not supposed to judge a victim of domestic abuse but when she seems to be putting the abusive man above her children's safety, it's very difficult to feel sympathy for her. I think you need to tell her that you'll be there for her when she decides to sort her life out and break contact with her abusive partner. Suggest that she contacts women's aid for support, you cannot continue to be involved. Sometimes you have to take a step back and look after your own.

I really feel for her children, but yes, I think you should walk away. I think be specific and tell her why. She's making shitty decisions that endanger the life of her and her children. But also you by the sounds of it. It doesn't sound like she will change, but I don't think you need to be putting your own life in danger because of her poor life choices. She seriously needs some therapy as she doesn't seem to realise that being single is less scary than having the shit kicked out of you!

What makes her a wonderful friend to you? What do you have in common, do you have fun together?

It just sounds like it's mostly trying to rescue her at this point?

I think it's fair enough to walk away - she seems locked into a self-destructive pattern.

Agree with this. She sounds awful. Give the kids your number so they can ring you in an emergency, but otherwise wash your hands of her

Honestly, walk away from this car crash. Don’t enable her stupidity.

I have a friend like that except 3 of her dc were taken into care and the fourth was put up for adoption. Her latest bf is absolutely awful but she won't listen. They both moved away which was a relief as I didn't have to deal with the constant drama. I've now found out he's been on remand since Christmas for attacking a young woman and my friend's still visiting him weekly at whichever prison he's in. He's just been moved to one further way from her. Try and distance yourself- her bad taste in men will never change!