Woman at church

[Imogenbee]

My partner was a Jehovah’s Witness from birth to the age of 22. Last week at age 47 we both went to a memorial service they hold annually. He had not been since 2011. He doesn’t want to commit again as there are restrictions and he won’t quit smoking.

There was a woman there whose eyes lit up when she saw him as she hadn’t seen him since they were 16. I sensed she fancied him as I could tell by her body language and the way she was talking. Back home when we saw his mum he told her he bumped into her and she said she is probably after you as she is always looking for a man. His mother hasn’t been in years so even she knows what this woman is like. Apparently this woman had all the guy after her but he claims her never fancied her.

How can I not feel threatened? I know they share the JW bond. I am not religious but have always practiced a good life and respect.

Here are some better questions. Has your husband shown any interest in this woman? Are you expecting her to turn up on your doorstep at midnight? Do you have a low opinion of yourself? How can you possibly feel threatened by a man eater with a tenuous link to your husband?

Has He got any intention of going anywhere near her again?

The poor guy. He was probably terrified.

You can not feel threatened because you’re the one who’s in a relationship with him (live together?), he’s had no desire to see this woman in 22 years, he has no desire to rejoin her church, and he will probably never see her again.

This.

They sound like they were childhood friends so it probably was nice for them to see each other, and for him to mention it to his mum...she on the other hand sounds like a nasty shit stirrer

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Oh, good grief.
31 years since he saw her, and on the strength of 'her body language' and you mil's stupid adherence to gossip, you think your dp is going to leave you and ride off into a no-smoking, no-drinking, no blood transfusions paradise with her?

You need to sort your insecurities out, or is your partner some kind of irresistible love God?
The fact he smokes would be a no from me.

OP, You are making something out of nothing

Edited as misread quoted post

Are you ok? He’s not seen this lady for over 30 years and incidentally bumped into her at a church he’s not been to in 14 years…what on earth would you be insecure about?!

His mum is still a devout JW. She probably wants him to be with a JW. He said he won’t be going back as he can’t abide by their rules.

Well there you have it then.

It's still not clear why you are concerned. You've had plenty of advice, all of it saying your concern is misplaced. Your second post suggests you don't believe what your DP is telling you and that you are involved in a power struggle with your MiL.

Surely cheating and adultory is prohibited if you are a Jehovah's Witness?